Well, you know, just because you have had a sudden change of heart on how things need to be doesn't mean you can make a sudden change. It would be like the authorities coming into your home as you're getting ready for bed and telling you, "Oh, bytheway,you're no longer allowed to sleep here. Yes, we love you, but, you're now sleeping across town in your own space. Come on now, it isn't like you can't find your family if you need them, but it's time for you to be on your own." From your baby's point of view, it's kind of like that.
Give yourself some time to work it.
Some moms have suggested starting with nap time and having baby nap in his/her bed to start him/her getting used to it.
I suggest spending time in there. Read, sing, do as much as possible with him on his bed.
My husband likes to let babies, toddlers, naughty big kids, fall asleep in whatever spot (little ones in our bed or on the couch; big kids being naughty on the large bean bag in the wash room)and then carries them to their bed.
As I'm transferring my babies (toddlers) from our bed to their own bed I sit with them, sing, sing, sing...stroke the head until they fall asleep. As they're getting bigger, the rule is that they have to start in their own bed and then if they wake up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep, they can come in and sleep ON THE FLOOR (then, of course, Daddy carries them back to bed when they're asleep--even if it's only ten minutes before they wake up for the day, they remember falling asleep in bed and waking in bed). This only lasts a short time...knowing the option is there usually ends in them not needing the access.
I think the first thing for you is to stop the video sleeping. Absolutely stop that first. Then once you get him going to sleep with another comfort source, you can change the place where he sleeps. Now, you may feel your world will just melt into a puddle if he doesn't get out of your bed tonight, so, I beg of you to choose ONE change at a time.
Your hubby isn't as committed to your transition as you are, so, if you start trying to force the location your gonna have a lot of frustration and tears--not to mention the beginnings of undermining each other in parenting.
Start with the HOW he falls asleep and the WHERE will be much easier.
That's the experience of having ten children talking. I hope that helps...most important is to be patient and give yourself time.
Hugs