My 17Mo Keeps Standing up in the Night.

Updated on November 04, 2016
K.P. asks from Wilmington, DE
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I am not sure how to tackle this and I'm looking for some advice. My 17mo, for the last few weeks, randomly stands up in the night crying. I go in and lie her back down and mostly she just goes back to sleep. How do I stop her doing this? I struggle to leave her crying so I was wondering if anyone had any other ideas?

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J.K.

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It's a normal phase and you're handling it properly. It will stop in it's own time, so don't worry about it.

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J.C.

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Sounds like you are handling it well, I am sure it is just a phase and she will get over it. Just make sure that when you put her back down you are not making it fun, you just lay her down and leave, so she doesn't start to think it is a way to get mom up for some play time.

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M.G.

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I keep it short and sweet going in and laying them back down again. For us it was a short phase, think all my kids went through it - around same age.

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T.D.

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i don't think you can stop her from doing it, i recommend you continue to just go in lay her back down and leave letting her fall back asleep on her own.
she could be waking because of a soiled diaper. she could be waking because shes on the verge of hitting a milestone and unable to sleep because of that. if shes not eating enough during the day she may be hungery ad nwaking for that reason. if you can find the reason for the waking, then you can prevent it, but if you can't find the reason, don't fret, it just happens sometimes and this too shall pass.

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N.Z.

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Keep doing what you're doing. You can't stop her from doing it.

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

i'm not seeing the problem.
17 month olds are learning to stand. this is a good thing. you don't want to discourage it.
if you lie her back down and she goes back to sleep.......well, that's about the best outcome i can imagine.
no, leaving her crying isn't a great idea.
you can't train her not to try to stand, and if you could it would still be a bad idea.
it's a phase. roll with it. it'll be over soon and a new one will come knocking.
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She's not going to stop doing it. You are going in and putting her back to sleep. She's used to it and she wakes up anticipating your arrival, and she doesn't know how to self-soothe. You are her crutch.

You could try going in and sitting in a chair in the middle of the room, but not going TO her. She will know you are there - you aren't ignoring her. She will still cry because you aren't doing what she wants. But you're establishing that the middle of the night is different and she has to put herself to sleep. Don't talk to her, don't move - just sit there. It will take several nights, maybe a week or two, but you have to be absolutely 100% consistent.

Good luck.

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K.H.

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This is natural growth. Sleep patterns will adjust continually as she grows. Kids wake up in the middle of the night thruout all ages. As adults we do too. She is learning how to put herself back to sleep and that's ok. The subtle lie back down smooth and pat should be necessary a couple few times. I only entered when I was sure they were needing me. Meaning I listened to their process. Try hard not to pick her up unless she's truly upset. You know the difference by now I'm sure. Sounds like you got it! Keep doing what you are doing. It's totally normal.

~Some kids stop napping & potty train right before 2 almost all by themselves. All 3 of mine did. 2 boys and a girl. Just a heads up.

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V.B.

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Just continue to help her lie back down. She will figure out how to do it on her own soon. Don't make a grand production of it, don't talk (minimally, if at all), don't do anything to make it 'rewarding' for her to encourage waking and crying.

But help her lie back down. Wait. She's 17 months, not 7? I'd be a bit surprised if at 17 months, she can't do this on her own. Does she have any developmental delays? If not, then I'd help her using the Ferber style. Go help her lie back down, but delay going in for a couple of minutes first. The next time (same night, or the following night) delay your arrival to help by another minute or two. The next time/night, delay by another couple of minutes (increasing the length, from 4 minutes, to 7 minutes, to 10 minutes, etc). Continue adding a small increments of time (up to probably 15 minutes of waiting before you go "rescue"her). Eventually, it won't be worth it to her to wait for you to rescue her and she'll lie down on her own.

At least, that's what I'd do.

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J.Z.

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Can she have ear infection?

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