Oh, Tania, I feel your pain. I can't imagine going through it times two though. My son is now 5 years old. He has had asthma since he was 4 months old (started with croop) and in the begining he went to the hospital a few times with pneumonia. I took him to a pulminologist/allergist and got him on a treatment program as part of a proactive approach to the situation. This includes Singular daily, flovent (inhaled steriod) daily, and Xopenx Neb. treatments as needed. Over the years I have become an athsma detector with my son. I have learned as soon as I see a runny nose...I increase his Flovent and start neb treatments immediately. I also have found some home remedies which work for me and my son. With Asthma comes that horrible cough. I have found that I can avoid some of his neb treatments (the ones I was giving him as soon as I heard that cough) with something I received on the internet...I know this is kind of strange, but it works. Rub Vicks Vapor Rub on the bottoms of their feet covered with socks. I swear this works! It has kept my son out of the hospital and from getting treatments that normally I would have started immediatly. Mind you I have been doing the Asthma thing for 5 years so I know the difference between being able to handle it myself and calling 911 or bringing him to the hospital. You may not be there yet. I rub the Vicks (a good coating) on the bottoms of his feet, even this toes and put a pair of light socks on him. It was like a miracle! Along with that I found an amazing product called Sudacare plug ins. They are waterless vaporizors. Just aromatherapy no chemicals. Between that and the vicks, he sleeps comportably and so do we. When he gets really bad, and I do know when we reach the point of WE NEED HELP, I call 911 because you do not want to drive to the hospial with a baby that is having trouble breathing.
I would also avoid going places with him where I knew there would be the threat of him picking up germs. I became a germaphobe due to his situation. Antibacterial wipes and wiping everything down before we sat down was torture. I would not let him stay over anyones house (relative). Places like chucke cheese, jugle wonders, please touch museum, etc... Were my worst nightmare. I could calculate to the day (3 days from the time of exposure) when I would be taking him to the doctor's after being in a situation like that. I would be angry if anyone put him in a germy situation. It was not pretty. When it snows, I have a panic attack, thinking how am I going to keep this child from going outside. Snow and cold weather are his enemy. Can you imagine watching all you friends and sister playing and having fun in the snow and Mom telling you that you cannot. The crying alone could send him into an asthma attack. 3 days later...To the doctors we went.
Now, I have a pretty good handle on it. I still get panicked when snow is in the forecast. Now, there is no telling him he cannot go out. I just try to make sure it is just for a little bit and he has to wear a hat that covers his mouth and nose. He knows what makes him feel bad and when it is coming on. He now tells me when he needs a treatment and when he needs to go to the doctors. It is a shame that a five year old has to go though that or even monitor his own treatments, but because he can tell me when he needs one, I am able to start treatment before I see and hear the symtoms. It has become more tolerable. I am still not looking forward to the fall/winter, but I hold hope that with each passing year he may grow out of it. I remind myself that things could be so much worse and I am grateful that we have learned how to handle it well and have a great pediatrition and pulminologist who help monitor him along with myself.
Good luck on you journey and do not take this lightly. Get to a pulminologist as soon as possible in you have not already done so. It is important to take a proactive approach to Asthma.
L.