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if my 14 year old son said he wanted to live with his uncle? I would tell him if he left - he wouldn't be coming home. HE is not the parent. HE does not make the rules.
You go down to his uncle's house and you pull his little butt home and tell him how it's gonna be.
He will be a responsible member of the family. He will be responsible for his laundry. He will be responsible for cleaning his room. If he has a cell phone? He can pay for it himself. If he doesn't like that idea? then he better straighten his butt up and fly right and follow MY RULES.
oooh...it seems like I am repeating...I agree with Karen, Christy, Wild Woman and others - tell you brother or BIL to get on board and make his life a living hell there...cooking, cleaning, etc. if he refuses to come home? Change the locks. He can't just come and go as he pleases...if he wants to get emancipated...tell him to go for it. Let him see how hard life is. He needs a wake up call. Bring his butt home and set the rules up.