Movin

C.,
Reality check: are you moving to be with your boyfriend/fiance, the same guy you recently broke it off with? (I looked through some of your recent posts.) If so, make sure that you have everything lined up that you will need to take care of yourself and your son BEFORE you move, INCLUDING a job. There are no guarantees in any relationship, and, based on your recent posts, yours might be particularly unstable. Also, are you certain that you are legally able to move out of state? I see that your ex has a court order for visitation.
My advice: take your time, plan as best as you can, think beyond the short-term, and be realistic. Good luck...

Decluttering is your first step. If you haven't used it in a year, you don't need it so get rid of it. Selling used furniture and appliances to buy new usually doesn't make financial sense. It is cheaper to store and move things yourself than to replace it all. A storage unit will cost you between $75-$250 a month depending on how big it is, whether it's climate controlled, etc.

Contact U-Haul for a moving truck. You can rent one, including a trailer to tow your vehicle for $300-$600 depending on the size of the moving truck, the distance you take the vehicle, etc. So, you could probably move your stuff and store it for a couple months for about $1000. How much new furniture and appliances can you buy with $1000? Not much.

I think your answer depends on a lot of the questions you don't yet have answered. Try to get the details more settled before doing anything drastic, such as selling furnishings.

Also, think about the cost of replacing items. For instance, if you have older, used furniture that can easily be replaced with items found at garage sales after you move, you might be better off leaving some such items behind. However, replacing electronic items, computers and TVs can be costly should these should be brought along if at all possible.

Make sure you bring enough necessities and basic items to get along for a period of time, as it may take a while for you to re-supply yourself.

HTH!

C. - Ditto what Ann H and Ivy B said. This sounds very hasty, not well thought out and not conducive to a healthy, productive living situation for a child. PLEASE reconsider moving until a)you can afford it and b) have an acutal, viable plan (secure job, some savings, a place to live, etc). Good luck

Sounds like you really aren't prepared to move - anyplace. If you aren't sure where you will be living and you have a child don't you think you should re-evaluate your situation. I can't imagine moving with a child and not knowing if I was going to live in a house or an RV and not knowing if you were going to take your car. Sounds hasty and not the best situation for a child.

Less is more. I moved back from TX a few years ago- and took as much as I could when I came- then had to store it- and ended up dumping or selling what I had paid to store for a year.Then as Christmas's and birthdays passed I have slowly replaced only what I need. Take the minimum neccessary, of course somethings are irreplaceable. I still only have 4 plates, 8 pieces each of silverware and glasses- one pot each size, and pan.

Hey..hey..slow down. The journey is the fun part...not the destination. You are on a very rocky path right now, and making hasty decisions is only going to hurt you and your child. I looked at some of your past posts, and noticed that at the end of October you weren't even dating...and now you are engaged to a man who basically fell off the face of the earth for a time, and didn't have enough respect to contact you. What's the big rush? If he is Mr Right, he doesn't need to be Mr. RIGHT NOW.

First, stop, take a deep breath. You DO NOT need a man to fulfill your life and help you escape. You need to take a step back and build a life for yourself and your child...possibly with this man...someday, or maybe not.

You need to find stable work and a good support network, be it friends, family, church, etc. People who want to see you suceed.

Moving...wait until you have a better grasp of your self and your life. Stop worrying about "being an adult" and "spreading your wings." You have some growing up to do, and throwing yourself into a marriage and a move is not going to do it in a healthy manner.

Buying a house? Wait until you are in a place that you are planning on remaining in for at least 3 years (just to cover your closing costs). Yes, you can buy a house cheaply...but if you do move again...you are going to be SELLING it cheaply, too. The last thing you want to do is lose a bunch of money just because it is a buyer's market, and you could have a lower monthly payment.

You need to start making some pragmatic changes in your life. Now would be a great time for you to find a fulfilling job...or go to school. Something to improve yourself so that if things with your move, your family, your boyfriend don't pan out - you have a saftey net...yourself.

Believe in yourself...then find yourself. Once you are where you need to be you will have the tools you need to swim instead of flail about trying not to drown.

The man part is easy, and if it is meant to be it will still be... a month, a year, or even a few years down the road. You need to focus on yourself and your life before you bring another dimension (man) into the equation.

Stop talking about moving, marrying, buying a house, and being mad at your parents, or your ex. Focus on bettering yourself, and in the process bettering your child...the rest will fall into place.