I have cousty of my 2 year old neice I am in the process of adopting her. She has been very mouthy lately, every time I would tell her to do something she would turn around and say "No you do it" . I don't understand why she is doing this. Is she just going through a pahse or is she doing it to just get a rise out of me?? Any help would be great.
It's probably a phase. She's testing her boundaries. When she tells you that make sure you help her do whatever it is you need of her, and gently but firmly let her know that you expect her to do what she is asked. Kids learn best by seeing what others do. For example if you want her to pick up her toys then tell her it's time to pick up and that she has to help you. You might even sing a clean up song to help get her going.
It could have something to do with any problems she has had. You didn't say why you are adopting her. That is a big adjustment for a child, let alone what led up to it.
Anissa,
I'm going to respond to both of your questions.:) Your neice first. She is two, and it is very normal for them to test their limits. You just need to be firm, yet loving, if she won't do what you say, or is mouthy, I would give 1 warning, and then it's off to time out. I have four children, my youngest is three, so we have a specific seat for time out.
Warning ~ She will son and cry and maybe scream, but you are the BOSS, you have to set the tone!
Now, your 8 month old, also at an age where she is testing her limits. Of course it's funny to hit mommy, look at that face she makes! lol But if she knew that it hurt, she probably wouldn't do it. What I used to do with my daughter when she did that, is I would take her hands, hold them with mine, and tell her, that hurts mommy, ouch! After a little while she got it. The trick is gently holding her hands, and making eye contact.
I hope this helps! I wish you the best, I know you have your hands full!
L.
my son did these type of things at that age. i made it really clear right away that that is not ok.
i would take him, hold him in place, make him look at me , tell him its not ok, and make him apologize. he stopped really quickly. i just made sure that i did this EVERY time he was "mouthy"
hello A.
your neice is going through terrible two believe when i say it get worst the only thing you can do is to talk to her in the most
calm voice
My son was 2 in April and I am getting the same thing from him. He thinks he is funny. I am just trying to keep up the consistency with him and tell him no that is not how we talk to people.
In my opinion, it is a good time to set boundries with her. You should address this with whatever type of discipline that you are comfortable with. I would not put up with it b/c it will only get worse if she believes that this is acceptable. It's good for children to be taught respect and manners at an early age, so that once they hit those teenage years, you have established good character values.
