Mothers/Dads With Daughters

Meagan, my dad also dad the same thing with cleaning the guns. My dad was the one to be afraid of.

With my poor daughter if she can get a guy pass her 4 older brothers to actually meet us... it will be me that they will be afraid of. I can be very out spoken and my kids friends have said that I have a very intimidating "the look" when I give it lol. My hubby is a sweet push over so he will be no help at all, plus he doesn't have the "look" he can give someone lol

Oh, probably me. But my husband met this older dad once who said that every boy that dated his daughter had to come to 3 family dinners at their house before he would let her go on one date with the boy. Cut out a lot of riff raff that way. Any boy who was willing to do that generally got the approval of proceeding to the next level: the date. My husband and I thought that was really, really smart and we're planning on doing it, too.

**Oh, and his daughter ended up marrying a very fabulous man who did get through the dinner gauntlet, obviously!

My husband already said the boys will stay away from his baby girl! Our little girl is due Feb but he's already very protective of her! And he has our son in on it, he tell him "what are you going to say to the boys?" to which he replies "stay away from my baby sister!" lol

I did not learn of this until many years had passed. But my GRANDMOTHER told my husband, just before we married, that if he ever hurt me, she would hunt him down with a bat, and make sure he never did again. This coming from the sweetest person on earth!

My boyfriends were scared of both of my parents. They were both tall and intimidating (when they wanted to be).

My dad's favorite "trick" was that he would clean one of his rifles on the kitchen table every time a date was coming to pick me up. Hew would invite my date in to "chat" with him... while he sat at the table cleaning away... usually in his military camo pants and a tank top. He never *said* anything threatening... Not that I every though much of it, but we had a large collection of animal skeletons in our kitchen...

My mom would show up unexpectedly when I was on a date... SO embarrassing. She was always that fake "too sweet" to my boyfriends.

In retrospect, my boyfriends probably thought that my family was a band of serial killers or something.

Ironically, my dad said (after I was married) that my husband was the only boy I ever brought home that he wasn't sure he could "take on". My husband was a football linebacker.

Our family? I am going to buy my husband a rifle when our girls get close to high school....

-M.

That would be me. My husband will complain to me about things and expect me to take care of them. Though of course, that is if he lets the girls out of the house.

My girls are 12 and oy it is going to come up soon. I told them they cannot date until they are married,. They have not put that together yet. They do have one friend that does not like me very much. She once told her mom I was "cool" but then one day my girls were in trouble because they did not do as I told them to and they got yelled at when I told them once again. She made a comment about being in a house that is mad and she would not want to be there and I told her her comments were not necessary. Then I asked her if she is able to do stuff if she does not do as told. Her answer was she would be in trouble. My husband would just huff into the house and tell me. Grr.

Well I hope they are most terrified of my daughter, currently 7. She is training in Mixed Martial Arts, and we are planning to make her get her green belt before she is allowed to date.

I would prefer to think that they will have a healthy respect for me and my husband and our family unit - knowing we ahve a close relarionship with our children, we talk frequently, and are very involved in each other's lives. Being present and involved will mean we will have a relationship with her friends too.

It will be me by default since I am a single mom. But even so I still think it would have been me. I've had people tell me my whole life that they were afraid of me until they got to know me, no idea what I do to project that, but it has come in handy.

My husband will be the scarey one. He works for a law enforcement agency, so he plans on pulling his credentials (badge) out for any boys that come around. He also has many guns that he will be conveniently cleaning when boys come over. He's a bigger guy so I think he will be intimidating. Luckily our daughter is only 3, so we have lots of time to perfect our bad cop routine haha.

My husband...he really isn't intimidating but he is a big guy who is way overprotective of me and the kids. I don't think I have ever intimidated anyone in my life haha

Like S.M. I'm doing what I can to prepare my daughter to take care of herself. She is nine and a RedBelt and will have her Black Belt well before she starts dating. I'm also aware that a mental toughness is needed along with the physical skills.

Then, her Dad is an army vet and a former Deputy Sheriff and is a big guy (and owns guns). He isn't afraid to be blunt to boys that come around. We've had the experience already of raising a boy (29) and girl (26) and they came out OK. I'm usually the more quiet, reserved, parent. But as my stepdaughter said "just don't get her mad!" cuz then watch out...

It was me. I am very polite but if you treated my daughter badly I would let them know. We had an issue with one boyfriend. DD was going out with her "bad boy" and she was giving us attitude. Every time she opened her mouth, I heard him. GRRRR!!!! Anyway, instead of fighting with her I would just point certain things out and let her think about it. She finally dumped him. Now, she is dating a very nice young man and we do like him. She says he's "the one". We'll see. She is 23.

OK I have to laugh at Lisa's remark.
We also have an older brother who has made it nown that he would be more than happy to "kick some @$$" if needed, but he doesn't only mean the boys, I thinik he would have something to say iif the girls dated someone HE dissapproved of.
Otherwise my hubby intimidates all males who look at my girls.

when my daughter started dating - she was living with her dad - but the boys were afraid of BOTH of us...she wasn't allowed to date until she was 16. She is now 25. She has been engaged ONCE and broke it off...I totally respected her for that one - her blinders were off BEFORE the wedding!

When I started dating - boys knew not to mess with my Dad - he was a Master Chief in the Navy (E-9)...and he has guns....

boys loved my mom because she made chocolate chip cookies that just melt in your mouth - but they also knew to be afraid of her blue eyed stare- swear to God - it can be like daggers coming at you!!!

Well, the scary one would be me, but because I trust my kids to make good choices, and they do, no one has had to be afraid of me.