Mother in Law Issues - Roseville,MI

I'm no expert but It sounds to me that what goes on in your household should be kept in your household. It seems as if you did not have any problems with her until you started consulting with her. Are you seeking some advice from her? It seems that she has not been too helpful and has made matters worse.
I would just learn the experience that you cannot tell her anything. I would be as sweet as pie to her and sister-in-law and treat them the way I would like to be treated. And maybe this would help them to see how petty they have been. At the same time, I would only discuss my business with someone whom I could trust.

Be grateful your husband is sticking up for you. I had similar issues. My husband cut off ties for over a year after his mother said that he should come to x-mas without me. Once I got pregnant, she wanted to see the baby and has pretty much restrained herself for the last 5 years. We will never be close...but it is tolerable to be around her now.

Ah, MILs. Basically you will be the black sheep/scapegoat/bad guy because you aren't part of the original family. It's that simple. There's some pychology word for it, but it's just the mixing of families. It sounds like you handled the situation best you could. My advice, for what it's worth, is to continue your relationship with her but to keep your cards close to your chest. Your husband only has one mother, he shouldn't cut ties with her (like my brother has with my mother--kills me). If something happens to her, he'll be racked with guilt (my dad died last fall and I have no more opportunity now to make mends with him). Just deal with it best you can but from a distance. If she complains about that, then she'll have to deal with the consequences of getting too involved. Things certainly change for our parents when we get married and have our own lives--they lose a chunk of control they used to have. Good luck. I know it's frustrating.

Sounds like sister/daugher is manipulating mom. I think sis has a bit of a sibling rivalry and jealousy w/brother and she is trying to get mom to side with her and get brother angry so she can have mom all to herself (witness how mom apologized and then changed her mind and blamed brothers spouse/you.) I would let mom know that you enjoy telling her personal things if she will keep them to herself and not tell daughter/sister. Tell her you want peace. If you think she will continue to tell daughter personal things, quite telling mom the personal stuff and talk about non-"hot topic" issues to keep the peace. Good luck.
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I decided only to share the positive things with family, the negative with an outside friend.
Good luck! A. H