Moodiness

I did the same exact thing with my second pregnancy..... I eventually just got to the point where I would tell him that I was getting upset with him for a dumb reason so I needed to leave the room and be alone for a few minutes! It really helped me to step back and look at the fact that I was mad for something idiotic......I am now 37 1/2 weeks along and I still have to do it at times but we handle it as long as I take a little 2-3 minute break and thing about it! My husband even made the comment to my daughter once that if we have any more babies we are getting them from somewhere other than Mommy even though I know he didnt mean it, still hurts.(He did apologize..but I saw his point) Good Luck and hope all goes well!

C., WELCOME TO PREGNANCY. I would cry, then laugh, then be absolute B.... to my husband. He just learned to ignore it. He knew it was just the hormones. Hey, they participated in getting us pregnant. And if all they have to deal with is us being moody at points, they should count their lucky stars. We are the ones who are sick for the first three months, have heartburn, mood swings, swollen ankles, sore breasts/nipples,feel like a whale most of the time, and are always the designated driver for annoying people. They just have to put up with our moodiness. So, don't feel bad. You are among the masses. And every pregnancy is different. When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband had 3 friends with wives who were also pregnant. I was miserable & they just loved being pregnant...it was wonderful...no puking, no swollen ankles, etc. Darn them!!! Oh well, the outcome is what matters. Your husband should feel blessed...and suck it up!! HEHEHE!!! Good luck & let me know what it is like having 3. D. Schnuelle

I have been the same way with all of mine also! My husband undersatnds, but there are times that he just tells me to realize what I am doing! I really try not to be a crab...but that isn't always the case. When I am having a good day I try to do something to show him that I do love and appreciate him. Even writing a letter to him and leaving it with his keys so that he sees it in the morning! Just remind your husband that you do love him, and that this is not really you it is just the baby talking and this will be over and the outcome will be totally worth it!

I completely know where you are coming from. Whenever I was pregnant with my last child, I was the same way...moody, grumpy,very hard to please, everything irritated me (I didn't even have to see him and he irritated me) but it wasn't just him, my older kids irritated me too. I went around just feeling like I could (and would) bite any of their heads off for any reason. One day I was in one of my moods and I walked outside with my grumpy look on my face and my neighbor was outside, looking at her kids and her husband with the exact same look that I felt I had on my face,it made me stop, and I thought to myself "huh, I wonder if she's pregnant too" and sure enough she was, we had our babies about 2 weeks apart. I think it is probably pretty normal...but I sure feel sorry for the people that have to put up with it! Have you asked your Dr. about anything that you might be able to take that may possibly help stabalize your mood, but is safe...? Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

C., if you are aware of the moodiness then try to make a joke of it with your husband. I also was very moody as a pregnant woman. I almost lost my job over it. People don't seem to understand that our hormones are raging and we do not feel the same as usual. Anyway, just try to acknowledge it with him on a regular basis so he knows that you are aware of it. Sometimes I would just look at him and smile after I bit his head off, then he would smile back and get it. I would also say things like "you know me and my hormones" trying to lighten up the mood. Also try to have time alone with him, without the other two children, where you can bond with him. You can try to have quiet moments to yourself to relieve any un-necissary stress as well. I used to get theraputic massages once per month. I feel for you and hope this works out ok for you. It is such a wonderful time in your life and sometimes it seems so hard to enjoy it because of side effects. I am 35 and have been married for 13 years, there are good times and bad times. Don't let this 40 weeks of your life determine the mood for the rest of your marriage. Love him, hug him and be thankful for him. Hopefully he will do the same for you!

I know exactly what your talking about. My baby is fifteen months old and i'm expecting another this coming friday. My poor old man is out of his mind, because of my moodiness... I have been such a mean person to him both of these pregnancy's. this one has been worse though, and i think thats because it was a very big suprise and we have had a hard time dealing with it. I have finally come to reality and am getting excited..
well as far as controlling it, i actually had to talk to the doctor about that and they put me on an antidepresant, which did help a little. good luck to you and your family.
p.s. i think its only natural to act that way twards the man, besides he is the one that helped you get that way and he doesnt have to deal with the discomfort. I know with me at least its been hard, cause i hate being pregnant anyway. But then again i have all kinds of uncomfort and big babies.

I think you need to take a breather. Just try to relax and remember it's your body doing this. The hormones. Tell him how you really feel, that you really love him but right now you can't be nice. Talk to your doc too and see if there is something you can take to ease your mind. I know it's not pleasent for your husband or for you but I think you need to talk to someone about it.

lol when i was pregnant with my number 2, my son asked me once if it was ok for him and daddy to go to a motel until the baby is born. HE WAS 4 AT THE TIME. Sure I cried at first, but then I realized that that was extremely funny and it made a difference when I was crabby. That became a running joke and usually snapped me out of my bad mood. It happens, its hormones. Oh the money one could make if they could bottle it up. lol Just tell him, when your in a good mood, to calmly remind you that you are being snippish and make a joke about it. It helps lighten everyone's mood. Its not easy being pregnant, but when you get that baby in your arms, its so worth it. Congratulations and keep your chin up! Good Luck!