Moms in Ringold Georgia

Updated on August 15, 2007
C.T. asks from Ringgold, GA
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i am a mom who has a knew son which will turn one on the 15th. his daddy and i are together in the same house hold, but because of my divorce not being final the baby has my madian name. have been trying to get my divorce without my ex knowing about the the baby but i think it's going to be impossible. really worried cause my ex is not nice.

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found out that all i have to do is a paternity test, which im not worried about cause my ex is definitly not the father.

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J.B.

answers from Memphis on

I am not sure what advice you are asking for. I don't think hiding your new son is going to solve anything. I think if the subject comes up you should be honest about it. As for divorce advice that's mine. I just completed a 3 year divorce. As for Mom advice, never deny your child. If you are hiding him because you got pregnant with him before you left your husband, I understand why you would, but that doesn't make it right. Step up and face the music with honesty and integrity. If you got pregnant after you left your husband and you were not cheating on your husband before the separation, then you have to reason to hide the fact that since you left him you had a child. I hope this helped since it was unclear what assistance you were needing.

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S.J.

answers from Memphis on

If the husband is the father of the child you need to let him know; if not it's none of his business. If the husband is the father he legally has a rights to the child. Be careful you want don't want it to turn into a WAR in court. (I work in child law) Get the divorce and move on if that's truly what you want to do.

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L.R.

answers from Chattanooga on

Isn't he listed on the birth certificate as your husband? If so, then he's listed as the father, the legal father.
I was having a hard time getting my ex to sign the divorce papers after I left him and met someone else. I was told by my doctor that I couldn't get pregnant but I did. You cannot get divorced if you're pregnant and you cannot list another man as the father of the baby when it's born. You have to put down your husband's name, so therefore, he is the legal father.
The good news for you now. To establish paternity (so that your ex has no parental rights to this child), hire a lawyer and sue him for paternity. My ex even refused to sign the paternity knowing for sure there was no way possible he was the father of this child until my lawyer told him that if he didn't sign, we were going to sue him for child support on this child, my living and clothing expenses while I was pregnant, my hospital bills and all of the baby's hospital bills. He signed and returned the paternity papers within a week after that.
My divorce and paternity was right around $1,700.00 so it's not cheap but if something should happen to you, God forbid, he will be the legal father rather the child has your maiden name or not, and he'll have custody of the baby.
If you need to, get a restraining order against him to keep him away from you and your baby. Until custody is established, the parent who has physical custody of the child has legal custody so it might be a good idea to get the custody established right away because if he was to take the baby then there isn't any thing to you can do legally, until you go to court. He may be vindictive enough to do something like that.
Best of luck and if you need any further advice, just send me a message.

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L.R.

answers from Memphis on

what is your question?? Yes it will be impossible for your ex not to find out. And when he does he can take you to the cleaners.

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