ok....so my little girl is 15 months old, still not walking so great (she can walk, just looks like frankenstien) so of course she isnt potty trained, well i have an issue with kids and diaper rash, i know it happens but not as frequent as my kid has one, and i think i can chalk this up to her mema, when she is home with me in the afternoon i constantly change her diaper because of the amount of fluids that she intakes, but i dont think its getting done no where near enough during her stay at her grandmas, reason being is damn near every afternoon she is a red and blochy "down there", and when she is with me on the weekends i get it just about cleared up and monday afternoon its red all over again, she says that she changes them frequently also but doesnt like to put the rash cream on but she does anyway, (i dont believe it) but anyways my question is what can i do? do i need to talk to her ONCE AGAIN about her method, stop letting her keep her or what? i am at my wits end with this woman she always tries to tell me i am doing things wrong and says that i worry about the wrong stuff...i know this isnt one of those instances though i just dont know what to do about it! any advice is appreciated! thanks in advance mommas!
Is she using a different brand of diapers or wipes? It may be an allergy issue. Also, why does she prefer not to use cream? You could provide a different brand (better smelling, less messy or whatever) of cream or disposable gloves to make diaper changes quicker / less unpleasant.
I know how you feel C., my son goes to my grandmothers most days and daycare until I get off of work. When I pick him up and get home to make dinner he never eats. I found out its because she gives him any where from 3-4 cups of juice/milk and someties soda (i hate it when she gives him soda) not to mention whatever snack he eats, I have asked her several times to not give him so much to drink and to limit the snacks. I have been dealing with this for over 3 years, and it's hard to tell family you don't like the way they are doing things with your child because they are helping you out but sometimes they just don't get that its your child NOT theres! So good luck I don't have any advice I'm still trying to figure out my situation..
Oh wow! Well...you can not send ANY diapers one day and see how long before she calls you to let you know it, that would let you know how long she is actually waiting to change her. Perhaps you could leave them somewhere else in her house where she wouldnt think to look lol OR dont send her as often OR talk to her once again before doing any of the above.
and is she going through all the diapers you send?
I would say my pediatrician noticed it at a recent appt. and is telling you to change her every hour (or whatever you feel is fair) for a few weeks, then bring her back for a recheck. See if that helps. Then you can say the dr. said to keep doing it, if it's working. I know, it's always very hard to approach things with family that watches your child. One other thing I would suggest is looking into the diapers you are using. I'm not sure if you saw this report, but the gel in your diapers might be causing a reaction with her skin- http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/money/consumer/call_for_action/ar.... You might want to try a different kind of diaper, or cloth diapers for a bit. We cloth diaper our kids. I do think they are a huge reason my son potty trained so quickly at 24 months old.
Good luck to you!
T.
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i have lots of suggestions (this may ramble and be long, so please bear with me - I'll keep it as short a ramble as possible! ;0)
first, I would switch to cloth diapers - second, your girl may be "sensitive" to the diaper rash cream - and thirdly, count the diapers. I know this may sound crazy, but if she says she is changing, then count how many diapers are missing. The reason I suggested cloth diapering is that she will have to change her more often because cloth isn't as absorbent as the chemicals in disposables. Then, you'll have a good idea of how many diapers she goes through in a day - you'll have them to take them home to wash - with disposable, I doubt anyone would "go through the trash" to see how many diapers were use. You could ask her to start keeping a "journal" like daycares are supposed to. They keep track of when diapers are changed and what happened, i.e. pee/poo - they also keep track of what they eat for snacks and lunch and how long or if they slept. Just a thought. Good luck momma! :)
hi i had this same problem with my mother in law. not changen her diaper enough, not given a bath when needed. not given little one the right food ect.. when the nice way of sayin it didnt work i had to have a talk and tell her this is the way i do it and if u want to see you grand baby u do it my way. the baby is the one who is in pain from the diaper rash and i didnt want my little one have that. after not letting her keep my little one for a good week to show her i was for real the next time she had her it was a big change she went by my rules and sced. good luck to you. you just have to do whats right for your baby
Stop sending her there. You are responsible for her care just like if she was not being cared for properly at a daycare you stop bringing her there.If mema wants to see her have her stop by your house so you are able to maintain control of the level of care being given to your daughter. When she tells you your doing things wrong I would tell her to worry about her own children and you will worry about yours. Good luck with this one!
It's always tough to talk to family members who are watching your child. But you have to look out for your sweet baby! You need to remind her how important it is to use the rash cream and especially to change diapers frequently, not just when they are stinky. Can you imagine how miserable you would be if you had a rash on your bum all the time? It would be awful. I know I would be cranky!! I don't know if you've tried Aquphor rash cream, but it works really well for us when we need it. Good luck!
Is Mema giving her too much juice(maybe full strength instead of diluted?) or sweets? I know I have to limit that sort of stuff or my son gets diaper rashes.
Is this your mom or your husband's mom? Maybe if it's his mom he can talk to her. Sometimes they might respond better. Other than that, I really don't know. I think the idea about the doctor telling you what to do is a good idea. If it's an option to not let her keep her maybe you should think about it at least temporarily. Maybe if you tell her until I figure out about this rash situation I better keep her close to home...it might make her realize you're serious?!
I had this same problem with my daughter and mother in law. It seemed like every visit she would come home with a diaper rash and I couldn't figure it out. I even started monitoring the amount of diapers that were being used and would buy the smallest tube of diaper rash cream to see how much was being used of that also! Come to find out she wasn't being changed as much as I would have done but also they were giving her pure juices without watering it down (which I always did). Come to find out the acid in the juices were coming through when she wet or pooped and it was breaking her out. I would suggest bringing up the diaper rash issue with yher without throwing blame and try to come to a conclusion together before pulling the strings. Then again, depending on the severity of the diaper rash and your mommy intuition you have to look at what is best for your little one! Good luck!!
