Mom's house/Dad's House

It's great that you have that attitude about the situation. It seems so "possitive".

Maybe it would help to feel like home if you referred to each as "your home with Daddy" or "your home with me" or "your home [blank]" (fill in the town if they are different). This will be a good wording that will make it feel as a sense of OWNERSHIP.

Choose some toys, clothes, and other belongings that you can allow to stay at "his home with Dad".

Talk with your Ex about this and maybe he will help you out on his end.

I hope it helps.

Blessings,

P. <><

What if he just calls them my house on ______ st. Then instead of describing them by who lives there he can just describe them by location. After all, like you say, they are both his homes. His friends will just think he's the luckiest kid around to have 2 houses!

I would just say, "you'll be with dad, or with mom." I'm sure whoever he's with calls their house, home. Then, he'll go home with dad, or home with mom.

A.
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It is not so much the "word" you should worry about, it is the "feeling". He will know each one as "home". Let him come up with his own terminology.

If you start calling the two houses "moms" and "dads", then where is "his"? He will come up with it on his own - and in the mean time, just act like he lives at your house all the time.

S.,
For us, my son's "home" is at my/our house. He goes to daddy's, when he goes. He takes everything with him and brings it back here...toys, clothes, etc. He does have a room there and a tooth brush. I have always called this his home because he spends most of his time here. My ex left when my son was 3 and he didn't really spend much time with his dad in the beginning, so I guess it is just habit to say this is his home. He usually says "am I going to daddy's". I am not sure if I really helped.....:)
L.

Try referring to the color of the house or the color of his bedroom. Then he could go to his "blue room" or his "truck room" or his "brick house" or his "yellow house". Perhaps the street names, since he's getting old enough to start learning where he lives.

There is actually a book called Mom's House, Dad's House. I can't remember the author, but it would REALLY be worth your reading.