Curly hair is hard, because 1) it's relatively rare wavy hair abounds though, & 2) there are so many different types.
It can be broken into 2 different main categories a) African/Australian & b)Caucasian. Biracial is even harder, because the hair alleles blend. Usually there is a tendency toward one or another (though almost never a complete "fix" on one side of the genetic background). What I would do would be to try both "types" of hair care, and see what works best. That's what we've done with some of our friend's kids...we form kind of a council and bring hair products and test out methods to see what kind of hair each girl's got! :)
I'm scottish (and have WILDLY curly scottish hair), and spent kindergarten and 1st grade in South Carolina. My hair was/is curly enough to hold cornrows...and BOY was that a blessing...my mother INSISTED on brushing my hair every morning otherwise, even though that is probably the single worst thing you can do...with caucasian curly hair.
I'll give you a couple examples as to the differences, and then tell you what I've done or do with mine. I would also suggest hitting up your in-laws (if your daughter is their grandchild). While many of my friends are black, and we laugh like crazy over our hair, there are a few key differences between us.
1) You CAN comb african curls when dry, you CANNOT comb/brush caucasian curls. The type and structure of the curl is different. Although I can literally 'fro my hair out (by brushing it dry), it's not kinky within the curl. The curls are tiny though, about the diameter of my pinky unless I've gotten them relaxed professionally, and then the diameter widens to about and inch.
2) You CAN wash caucasian curls everyday, you CANNOT wash african/aust hair everyday...maybe once a week.
3) There's already been some great advice if your daughters hair leans toward being more African/Australian...so I won't even go into that here...especially since I'm already writing a book below. ;)
Here's my super-cheap/super simple method I use on my hair. It's not what I prefer...but I'll list that afterward. Try it on your daughter. If it works, she lends toward more caucasian, if it doesn't she leans more the other way.
- shower
- shampoo (very little)
- rinse
- conditioner (a ton)
- brush/comb hair with conditioner in it
- rinse
- squeeze excess h2o out in the shower DO NOT TOWEL DRY
- squeeze gel into palm of hand
(for shoulder length hair make a spiral with the gel that completely covers the palm of her hand so that no skin is showing. I know it sounds like a lot for people who have straight hair, but believe me, every strand of hair has to be saturated in it. The little quarter sized dabs I use when I blow my hair straight would be USELESS when I let my hair go curly. Whole honking handfulls of gel. I go through about a bottle per week if I use it every day.)
- Smear it over the top layer and scrunch, crunch it in. DO NOT comb or brush in. Kind of push hair into the way you would like it to dry.
- Hair can be piled (not pulled) into a ponytail to keep it from getting other things wet. When it starts feeling dry and "crunchy" take it down from the ponytail and let it finish air drying.
- Gel to use for this method : LA Looks/or LA Natural SUPER/orMEGA/or EXTREME....NOT the one for curly hair. The curly hair one is a joke.
- If you do this at night, try putting in a low ponytail, separating in half, braiding each half, twist the braids around in a bun, bobbypin in place, put a 'do-rag on, and then take the whole thing down the next morning. Again, and always, DO NOT BRUSH...just sort of shake out.
I use the above method when I'm on a tight budget. Here's what I do if I'm not:
- Get my hair relaxed every 2 mo. (150 a pop)
- Use Bumble&Bumble "Get Straight" (it doesn't, but makes the curls silky instead of stiff) Gel, and Bumble&Bumble grooming cream...both when wet and then just more grooming cream when I take it down from being piled on top of my head (25 bucks EACH...so 50 bucks every week and a half :P)
- You can do WAY more things with the curls using expensive gel (like combing into a ponytail so that when you take it down you've got big wavy curls around your face, or being able to run your fingers through it when it dries...heavenly.), but the cheap method has pretty results...and since the cheap method takes about 4 times longer to dry (the gels fault), it's great for summertime.)
Whew....If you're interested in learning how to blow her hair out so that it's straight, message me....I think I've hit my limit on length for today.