L.P.
Hi K.. I know what she is going through. I am bi-polar. It is like have PMS but 20 times worse. I know that when my medication was not regulated, I would act out by yelling, crying, being promiscuous, among other things. Alot of what she is doing, she can not control. She knows what she is saying is hurtful, but she cannot keep herself calm and think rationally before the words spill out of her mouth. It is very important that you find someone that can get the meds tweaked. If you are seeing a family dr for this, stop. She needs a psychatrist. They know how other meds will interact with bipolar meds. Another thing to watch for is to watch her and make sure she is really taking her medications. Sometimes if a medication is making a person feel "dragged down", they will not take it. They will spit it out in the sink or trash.
My best friends son was throwing his behind the refrigerator.
When she screams at your husband, you still reprimand her. You let her know that you understand that she is going through a difficult time right now but that you will not tolerate disrespect. Sometimes people use the bipolar to get away with being nasty to someone.
If you would like to talk to me further about being bipolar, send me a message. I hope that I have given some useful information.
L.