I have 5 year old twins who were diagnosed w/a milk allergy when they were babies. We went through the picky toddler stage but I held firm, and thank You Lord they are awesome eaters now. Having your daughter continually try the 'newer' foods, in small servings, repeatedly, will replace typical dairy items that will help get her acclimated to them. Through this process my twins now LOVE homemade things like roasted red pepper hummus (replaces all the cheese dips everyone else is eating and much healthier), bean soups, pepperoni slices, varities of olives, bagels dipped in pizza sauce w/pepperoni & fake dairy free cream cheese melted together, smoothies w/Silk yogurts, salsa & tortilla chips, hot pretzels w/honey mustard, & pasta in any form. To thicken soups, just use an immersion blend on part of your soup right in the pot. Coconut milk replaces regular milk for sweeter milk. There's a frozen non-dairy (milk free too) creamer called FarmRich in the breakfast section at the grocery store. This is a great replacement for cream in your dishes. The label "parave" indicates no milk. Most foods marked 'non-dairy' are not milk free. Good brands are Silk & tofutti. Fleishman's unsalted margerine sticks, Smart Balance light, and Earth Balance are 3 dairy free margerines. Hope this helps!
J. :-)