Hi C.,
I understand that you want your son to be safe around the water. Obviously, in Florida there are pools and ponds and lakes everywhere. Your child needs to know how to rescue himself should he wind up in the water by accident. It sounds like you are taking him to a program that teaches children to have fun in the water... but not how to save themselves. This will only make matters worse, as he now comes to believe that the water if fun! When he winds up in the pool without Daddy, he will have no clue what to do.
You need to enroll him in Infant Swimming Resource. ISR is a program that teaches children as young as 6 months to save themselves! It is amazing to see a little child who can barely crawl, roll over and float on their back. Children who are walking are taught to swim.. roll back to float so they can rest and breathe.. and then flip over and swim some more. They repeat this process until they can get to the steps, or side or someplace to hold on to.
ISR has 40 years of experience in the best way to teach children to rescue themselves. YES.. many children will scream through lessons -- that is okay. They have no other way to express that they are mad about being made to do something that is uncomfortable (for a time) or that they just don't want to do. But lessons are only 10 minutes each day - 5 days each week - for approximately 6 weeks. So a little screaming is not a big issue. Even the worst screamers are happy as soon as they are out of the water and doing what they want. It is no big deal.
Please visit www.InfantSwim.com and find an instructor in your area. Or visit www.855SAFE.com for some instructors in the Orange, Seminole and Volusia county areas. Or call 407-855-SAFE and you will be referred to an instructor in your area.
I promise you -- your child will learn to be safe - will learn to swim a little and will learn to enjoy the water. Even if he fights through the entire process... he will still learn to be SAFE! And isn't that the most important thing?
I have been the Grandma bringing my precious baby to lessons and I am now an instructor with ISR. My 5 grand daughters all went through lessons - many cried or screamed through the lessons .. and they ALL love being in the pool as much as possible now. AND.. they are great little swimmers.
PLEASE... PLEASE... find an ISR instructor near you and investigate Survival Swimming Lessons... Teach your child to be SAFE in the water. Teach your child to rescue himself!!
And... don't give in to temper tantrums.. if you give in at 20 minths - what are you going to do with a 12 year old?
God Bless!
M.