H.S.
F., I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE AND YOU'RE EXPECTING AT THE SAME TIME. I'M A SINGLE MOTHER OF 2 BOYS AND JUST WENT THROUGH THIS. LET ME START OFF BY SAYING IT'S GONNA GET HARDER BEFORE IT GET BETTER SO BRACE YOURSELF AND BE PREPARED TO ACT LIKE EVERTHING IS FINE IN FRONT OF THE KIDS BECAUSE IT DOES GET BETTER. NOW, WHAT THIS COORDINATOR IS IS A COURT MEDIATOR. THEY MAKE IT EASIER FOR THE JUDGE BY IRONING OUT ALL THE NITTY GRITTY SO YOU AND YOUR EX AREN'T BICKERING IN THE COURT ROOM. I READ YOUR OTHER RESPONSES AND THEY WERE RIGHT ON TARGET. GO IN WITH MORE THAN YOU WANT AND ALL ON PAPER IN LAMINS TERMS. THINK LONG AND HARD ABOUT THE HOLIDAYS AND BIRTHDAYS BECAUSE YOU MAY WANT IT ALL THIS YEAR BUT THINK INTO THE FUTURE WHEN IT'S HIS TURN. I JUST MADE THAT MISTAKE BY WANTING THEM LAST YEAR ON CHRISTMAS MORNING, NOW IT ALL FALLS ON HIS WEEKEND AND I'LL ONLY SEE MY BOYS FOR A FEW HOURS ON CHRISTMAS DAY. ALSO TAKE INTO CONSIDERATION THE WEEKDAYS. WHEN YOUR OLDER CHILD IS IN SCHOOL, YOU'RE NOT GONNA WANT HIM BEING BOUNCED AROUND DURING THE WEEK. EXPRESS THE POINT OF 'CONSISTANCY FOR THE CHILD'. THE MEDIATORS LOVE WHEN A PARENT SEES ONLY THE BEST FOR THE CHILD AND EVER CHILD YOUNG OR OLDER, NEEDS CONSISTANCY. THE REASON I TELL YOU THIS IS BECAUSE MY OLDEST IS IN KINDERGARTEN AND HE'S HAVING TROUBLE FOCUSING BECAUSE HE'S BACK AND FORTH BETWEEN HOUSES. I WAS BEING GENEROUS BECAUSE I WANTED MY SON TO SEE DAD OFTEN BUT IT LEAD TO OTHER ISSUES; ONES THAT COULD HAVE BEEN AVOIDED. I'M GOING ON AND ON AND I COULD GO ON FOREVER BUT FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME @ ____@____.com. I CAN TELL YOU SO MUCH. BUT GOOD LUCK AND I'M IN THE AREA SO IF YOU WAN TTO CHAT DURING THOSE HARD TIMES, DROP A LINE.
H. S, HAMILTON SQ