I am 4 days late on my period. never late before. I feel a little anxious and off and on nausous. i know I need to take a test, but kinda want to wait till my husband brings it up. He thinks I am going to start at any point and time...LOL. I left the tests on the bathroom counter thinking he would say something, but so far, nothing.... How can I get him to say something with out me saying something first.... I know all this sounds weird, but this would be our frist and we just started trying, so we are both nervous....
I don't know why I want him to bring it up..... maybe I am more nervous than I think... Part of my fear is that I won't be, and feel disapointed, and then part of me will be so excited and he won't be... Sorry, I know this is confusing, but I will keep you posted!!
Thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and advice. I don't know why it was such a big deal. We took the test and it was negitave. Now I just have to figure out why I am late and bloated....LOL! Feelin a little down though
Just take the test, he may never ask. The more drama you put into this now the more drama and diappiontment if he never asks or if you are not pregnant.
wait I'm confused. Why do you want him to be the one to bring up the test? Why don't you bring it up to him so he can be there while you wait for the test results and stuff? I honestly think its the only way he's gonna get the hint. I haven't met many guys who pick up on clues very easily, no matter how obvious we think it is. I would just say to him, I was thinking that maybe I should take a pregnancy test since I'm 4 days late, what do you think? I don't know . . .
Oh and you should let us know if you are cause now I'm curious haha
If you just started trying keep in mind lots of healthy women take 3-6 months to get pregnant. It can be longer depending on your previous form of birth control. Even though they told us in sex ed the first time a boy looks at you with a glimmer in their eye you will end up holding 10 babies, that's not actually how it works. Just sayin'. Lots of women feel lied to when they realize it can actually take a while to finally get that precious positive sign.
So, though its soooo hard, try NOT to expect it this soon. Then it's just a happy surprise.
My first husband and I tried for TWO years to get pregnant. No luck. Our divorce was a long, long time ago. Now he has a daughter with his second wife and I have number four on the way with my husband. Sometimes things happen when they are supposed to. Trust your body and try not to stress.
Anyway - take the test and then you can come up with adorable ways to tell him if you are! You can wrap the pregnant test.... you can make cookies in a plus sign... you can buy a picture frame that says "I love Daddy"..
Good luck!
The only thing I can add is that you need to realize that men aren't idiots. If you were him, would you want to ask your wife about it and bring up a disappointment? Wouldn't you wonder why your wife left it out for you to see and then didn't comment? Do not play these games. I'll bet he weighed out his options and decided the best course was to wait for you to be ready to tell him (and wonder why you were playing kid games). Any time you feel the desire to play mind reading games, just believe that he sees, doesn't know why, and has to wait until you're ready to ... share. Don't give him the idea that you aren't grown up enough to communicate honestly with him as I suspect you'd want him to do with you.
If you are past your period date, I would just go ahead and take one. Isn't the anticipation killing you? Just tell him your a bit late and going to take the test, ask him to watch with you. Good Luck.
Don't put this on his hands, men are pretty clueless and don't always know the full details or cue into why a women thinks they are pregnant. He probably doesn't even realize the box is a pregnancy test, and if he does, he may be confused why it's sitting there and you haven't said anything about it. It's a game you are playing that he hasn't clued into. Just go take the test already and give everyone a rest! Then tell us :)
You're playing a dangerous game. If he doesn't notice, and I agree that guys tend to be clueless, you'll feel hurt and so will he. Never expect someone to read your mind! Everyone loses when you do.
I also suggest that your symptoms can be the result of anxiety. I don't know how long to wait before one should expect a positive result but if it's the right amount of time, I agree take the test with him there so that you can both "be on the same page at the same time." Share this time with him.
Just take the test. :) Men can't read our minds, and he won't ask you to take one.
You are nervous it is a major life change and he is probably going through the same emotions you are. Why would he not be excited if you are trying? If one of you does not want children than don't try yet. My sister and her husband were married for 17 years before they had children, no fertility problems just not ready to have them. He might be worried you have taken a test and it was negative so you are upset and he does not want to make it worse. Take a deep breath than take the test, you are making yourself worry for no reason. Good luck with this new adventure.
I know when I was trying to conceive I would take my temp every morning and if it went up like a whole degree them meant I was ovulating and was a great time to try.
Good luck and God bless!
