My husband has been out of work for appx. 5 years due to back injury at work, and I have been carrying the load (paying all the bills). He was recently approved for SSI Disability, received a check and went out & purchased a 2007 w/o paying any bills in house. He told me to take our son's check to pay bills because this was his check. He also spent $50K on a music room in the garage. This is not fair to me, as he has been wastefully spending throughout the years, but this takes the cake. His family has tried talking to him but he does't want to listen! He is a very selffish man. I am ready to leave him!!!
I scheduled an appointment with a marriage counselor for my husband & I for next week. I asked him in the past about counseling & he refused, I hope he keeps this appointment. I'll let you know what happens.
No one can tell you what to do about your marriage. You have to do what is best for you and your children. One thing I do know is that you only have one life to live and it should be a happy one. You have to decide whether your marriage can add to your life's happiness or subrtact from it.
Take Care.
I don't know what to say except that if I were in your position, I WOULD leave. You have to do what is best for you and for your family. He has his priorities backwards and you can't just let him do what he wants without consequence.
I have heard peple in loveless marriages say that they stay because of the money, and/or for the sake of the kids. Usually, the husband is the primary breadwinner, and the woman is unable to support herself if she were to leave. But your situation is different- you are the one with the job!!! Maybe you can try a separation, and see if you feel happier on your own. Your husband is probably going to realize how much he'll lose by not having you in his life, and, hopefully, he'll change.
It is also possible that he feels very inadequate being out of work and on disability since the age of 44. Men don't do well when they loose their jobs... my husband gets very depressed and anxious when he has to find a new job; maybe your husband is acting out in this way.
What can I tell you- marriage is never easy, but there are solutions and help out there. Perhaps marriage or financial counseling??
When all else fails, look inside your soul and go with your gut feeling. It is almost always right.
