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Are there reasons that your husband accepted this job? Does it offer better benefits or pay, or a chance to use his skills or training? Is it in an area where people in his field find great job security? Or, is he a city bus driver in, say, Los Angeles, who just decided on a whim to get a job as a city bus driver in Orlando, for no raise in pay, no changes in benefits, nothing other than "hmmm, think I'll move us all to a new city, just for kicks".
We have moved to a small village in Italy. We spoke no Italian, we knew no one, and on the second day in our apartment where I couldn't even figure out how the dishwasher opened never mind operated, my husband had to fly to Germany. He left me and our 2 young kids for several days, literally alone on the entire continent. He was assigned to a NATO squadron, so we weren't on an American military base.
Then several years later we moved to a small third world island, where again, there weren't American facilities. It was nearly impossible to leave the island (one small flight to Florida a couple of times a week) and we actually didn't leave for almost 3 years.
Now, we're on the island of Oahu, in Honolulu. Talk about far away! We didn't know anyone here, either. And our adult daughter is with us, and she is medically disabled. I'm her driver, appointment minder, medication manager, and basic care giver. My husband works long, long hours (but he's helping to protect our country!).
If your husband accepted this job for good reasons, then the common ground is your family: you and your husband and your children. Do whatever is needed to strengthen that common ground.
If your husband just picked a meaningless job just because he was sick of the pizza where you live, then you two have some discussions to have.
You can raise your kids without help. Many of us do. Don't think of it as being made to stay with your kids. That's a blessing. You'll meet other parents at parks, at churches, at schools, at the stores. There are almost always other people to socialize with, other than Antarctica.
Moving to strange places has given our kids a lot of resilience and creativity. But you have to be willing to face new places and new people. Don't forget that your family needs your strength. Common ground.