T.H.
It sounds like a tough position that you're in! First I wanted to address the counseling thing...it really does sound as if you're heading down a dangerous spiral if you don't even want to get out of bed in the morning. Do you have health insurance? If you do, many plans will cover seeing a counselor at least a few times. If you don't have a plan that covers it but really do want to talk to someone, look into your county's mental health department. I know in Johnson County you can see therapists for free or cheap if you want/ need it.
Someone else posted recently about a website called meetup.com...that might be a good place to get started on finding different groups of people to hang out with while you're still looking for a church you like. It's really hard to be put in the position of making friends when you're a grown woman! It seems so easy, but it's not! I believe you will find your niche, hang in there and keep plugging along! Winter is depressing enough on it's own so good look and get out there! :)