L.U.
Wow P.....I think you need to be yelled at! (you asked!)
#1. Some very skinny people that I know have developed gestational diabetes as well. I am nice and fat and have NOT got it. Sometimes it just doesn't matter what you do, you get GD. And I highly doubt you are with her every day to watch what she is eating.
#2. She can't control if she gets preeclamsia, so I find it odd that you seem to be blaming her for that as well!
#3. She didn't "rope" you into co-hosting her baby shower. You just didn't say "no". That's on you! If she asked you and you didn't want to or couldn't find the time then you are perfectly capable of saying "no", right?
#4. I find it really hard to swallow that you have a set age that someone should stop having a baby shower. So what if she is 40?! She would like to celebrate the fact that they are having their first baby!!! It doesn't matter how much money she has, she is asking her "friends" to celebrate her baby...geesh.
I don't know P., I read your question and you came off as really bitter and angry. I think you are angry because you are working and have your babies (kids) running around and life in general is just stressful. But, don't take it out on her! It's BORING to be on bedrest! But, I guarantee that if your friend was to read your post/question that she would think that you were a pretty awful friend. I just shook my head the whole time.