R.Y.
I felt like this too when pregnant with the second baby (she's 4 months old now). It is much harder on everyone once you already have the first baby--think about the stress of a two year old plus the stress of pregnancy. My 3 year old is still giving me a hard time because of the baby. Sure, with the first baby you may get waited on but who has time after that (it's a nice fantasy though). I struggled to run the household without much extra help until the 3rd trimester then had a big argument with my husband about getting baby gear out of the attic in the last month (me hauling baby gear down a pull down stairway in the last month of pregnancy was just not happening). He did a lot of extra jobs for me the last 4-6 weeks and especially the last 3 when the baby was in an uncomfortable position. But he was also exhausted and stressed taking care of our toddler and me and working full time. I know what you mean about being stuck in the house with a toddler and no other adult to talk to but your spouse. I called my best friend and my mom constantly to vent (ironically, my mom takes my husband's side a lot). My husband does do a lot (he is washing bottles right now) but he has to know a job is "his job" regularly or on a one time basis. I had to specifically tell my husband I could no longer do some jobs that involved bending or lifting during the second half of pregnancy until after recovering from the birth. In my experience he just doesn't "see" the mess/jobs that need doing and a big percentage of guys are like this. If you can manage to calmly talk to him about some of this and ask him nicely to do certian specific tasks he might be more likely to help. Also if you are both overwhelmed you can get hire out some things. Money is tight for us but we managed to get a cleaning service to come in the last month for my pregnancy and the month the baby was born. I am far from a great housekeeper but I find when it gets really messy and chaotic I feel stressed out and discouraged.