Lying - Coolidge,AZ

I would say, good riddance.
They are that way.
You are not.
It seems, this will always be a problem. And as her son gets older, it will get worse.
She enables, him.

Try recording him next time, or take photos.
If you really want proof.
Cell phones have cameras and recorders.

But if anything, you said that he was calling people names.
And if so, then isn't there bystanders who SAW him say and do those things?
That is proof too.
And witnesses to his behavior.

If my sister acted that way, I'd ask if she needed help packing.

Good riddance! Maybe she'll have better luck staying somewhere else, I certainly wouldn't want to deal with that kind of immaturity.

does it really matter? I mean, seriously, one day your sister will learn that she should follow the adult in the situation. :)

& perhaps it's time to practice: Sticks & stones..... & find a way to regain Peace.

Taking it a step further, with all of the disconnect/name-calling/stress.... do you really want her there & does she begrudge your role as provider?

Put your sister in time out?? Sorry, nothing you can do now. maybe, just maybe she will figure out who is telling the truth and appologize.
You have very different parenting styles.

Been there. Sometimes, if it's just words, you have to ignore what you can. Stop trying to instill disapline in him, it's a long term project and not your project. Sounds like nobody's project.
Or Nervy has a good idea to set limits to what you will listen to. If its actions, then by all means, protect your family.

This is what I call a train wreck. You can see it happening in slow motion over the years. Then when they hit the teens and early 20s the most horrible outcomes happen and there is carnage everywhere. But you can't stop it. If you get in front of it, it will just run over you and you will not have stopped what's in motion.

Yet another reason why visitors should stay in hotels.
Your sister still has some growing up to do - leave her to it.
She's wrapped around her son's little finger and he's getting good at steering her exactly the way he wants her to go.
Apparently he can do no wrong.
Distance yourself from her and her family now.

Minimize the toys the kids drag around with them.
Make it one toy, then make it stay in the car, then eventually make it stay safe and sound in their bed where it can't be damaged or lost.

I wouldn't "SAY" anything...other than "i'm sorry you believe a child over me"

In my pillow? I would scream!! :)

Good riddance!!

Don't come crying to me when your son lies to you!!! Please don't let the door hit on your way out!!!

She IS family. She will need you one day again. So choose your words carefully. She's angry - you are hurt - you don't need to say something in anger or while hurt.

Don't post about it on facebook.
Don't gossip about it with other family members. If they ask why "Jane" is upset with you - you can tell them the truth and DROP IT....it will fast become another "he said/she said" and things will get even more complicated.

Deep breaths...let them out slowly. This too shall pass.

Good luck!

I don't mean to be glib, but it sounds like there was some disconnect there.
Your sister didn't believe you, and she should have. She's also mad that you put him in time out. Did you have that sort of agreement with her, that you could discipline or punish her kids? I am going to guess that some people will feel that it goes without saying-- if it's a family member, an adult can discipline the child. I don't think it's a safe assumption to make, though. I have always chosen to either suggest to the child what MY limits were or to let the parent know about the behavior, but I wouldn't go so far as to put one of my nieces or nephews in time out. That wouldn't sit well with ANY of my sisters.

As for the lying-- that's really going to be her parenting issue to sort out with herself, believing her kid over other responsible, credible adults.

What's your relationship with this sister usually like? If it's usually amiable, try to connect with her in a few days after you have both calmed down about this. You both feel hurt. Personally, if my son is with an adult who needed to put him in time out for a safety reason, I wouldn't be as upset with the adult as I would have been with him, however, if there had been teasing and mean words, I would have preferred that the adult guide him and problem solve with him ("Suzy, can you tell Hulk how you felt when he said "XYZ" ) or gave him a boundary "if you can't be kind with your words, you may go play somewhere else. We don't speak to each other that way". The time out wasn't instructive in this case and it didn't solve the problem of him calling people names, it seemed like it was more of a punishment than a natural consequence, which apologizing or hearing the feelings of others would have been.

I hope you can work it out with your sister. Her son doesn't sound kind, I just think your sister needs to be approached in a way which doesn't raise her 'Mama Bear' defenses about her son.

I'd tell her not to let the door hit her on the way out. Her child sounds like a brat, and she's the one who raised him.