I was wondering what I should send to my friends family. They recently lost her infant nephew.
Thanks.
Sorry to hear of the loss. That is very sad.
Do you know if he died of an illness? A contribution to a cause or hopsital in his honor would be very thoughtful.
You can also send over food - like a deli platter or something since preparing food at a time like this is so overwhelming.
One thing that helped a friend of mine out a lot was beverages (water, iced tea, etc), paper plates, napkins, plastic cups, forks, ect. She lost her son in November at 11 months, and although they received a lot of food (she still has a freezer full), she said it was those things that stuck out as being thoughtful.
I'm so sorry for their loss. I can't even imagine.
Besides halping as some have already said, if you want to send something more tangible perhaps a little, well done, statuette of a baby angel. SO sad..I am sorry for this family.
Do you mean to the parents of the baby or to your friend? If you mean your friend, I'm not sure what I would give her. But if you were friends with her family and the parents of her nephew you could look at the lithograph on this website: http://www.compassionatefriends.org/resources/Exclusives_...
It was designed for parents who lost a child by a parent who lost a child. You could also make some freezer meals for them. They're not going to want to cook anytime soon and most people will bring something for the fridge or that's already hot. If you freeze it for them they can have it in the weeks to come.
Sorry I couldn't be more help.
*hugs*
when we lost my ss we got help in numerous ways. a we were out of state one of his friends mom paid for our hotel for a week. the church helped us with money. my biggest suggestion is a keepsake and a gift card from a store such as target or such. they dont know what they need and they are going to need ex food new clothes for the funeral, gas maybe, alot of people will supply food and such, they may want a new outfit for the baby, a teddy bear to be buried with the baby or get 2 one for the parents and one for the baby and make them identical, we had alot of people hand us cash. we had a lot of complications I wont go into detail about but the cash helped more than anything. we had to buy his brother a suit our baby had to have stuff replaced due to the complications, we paid for the dvd, and stuff from the funeral home we wouldnt have had the money for. we bought gas , food, clothes for us dress up clothes for the funeral, we had to buy his brothers shoes for the funeral. 2 of them. we had to buy the baby dress clothes partly due to we didnt have any he wasa baby and didnt go out much and part of it was we lost his dress clothes due to the complications. we had to buy little things but remeber we had to travel like toothbrushes and etc. long story so I wont go into the drama. they are going to have out of town company they may need more toilet paper soap, or stuff like that so my vote is the 2 teddy bears and a gift card where they can buy anything they need. like the things I named above. sorry to hear about this my sympathies are with them.
My sister lost her infant daughter last year and her co-workers made her a necklace from one of her pictures. It's very pretty and I didn't even know theycould do that w/ a picture. I doubt it cost very much and my sister absolutely loves and has never taken it off. My only other suggestion would be a keepsake of some sort... maybe a photo/frame or a memory book if there were many pics taken? My niece only lived about a month but there were tons of pics and nowhere to put them. Hope this helps. So sorry to hear about the loss though. Losing a child is a terrible thing to go through...
Hi, M.:
A visit. Allow her to talk about her loss. Visit after the initial shock
is over.
Thanks for caring.
D.
For mom, I like the idea of a necklace with a special pendant to keep her little one close to her heart (although I can't tell from your post how well you know the family). You could arrange for flowers or another tribute to be sent to the cemetary, with an accompanying note to the family (a nice thing to do when his birthday rolls around and they are having a tough time remembering him). If you want to go a more practical route, a basket with tissues, toilet paper, napkins, hand soap, and other products that everyone uses is a wonderful gift since no one wants to think about running out for those necessities with everything else that's going on in their lives.
are they Catholic? for those we know that are, we send a mass for their loved one.. you can even get ones where they perform one once every month on the behalf of the decedent. when my MIL lost her husband (I know not the same as a child) but when she did, she had a mass done once month for an entire year. She already went to church but she especially attended when it was his mass.. I think it helped her find some type of closure knowing that many were praying for him. She is a very religious woman so this is what helped her.
Also, I have known some who started a charity on behalf of a child. I don't know what the little nephew passed from, but maybe starting a charity to raise money and or awareness might help.. just an idea..
I wish your family ,friends and you many blessings....
I would say definitely a visit when they are ready. Don't be afraid to mention the baby and follow their lead if they want to talk or not at that time. Also I love these http://www.craftefamily.com/baby_gifts/baby_block_persona... - they are small and personalized and can mean a lot to a family who has lost a baby. It is something tangible they can hold onto. I also usually mark down the date in my calendar for the next year or two so I can remember with a card or special prayers. Oftentimes by then the parents can feel like no one remembers and it can help them face a difficult anniversary.
