Lora Jensen's 3 Day Potty Training Method

I got a book from our library that was really old like the 1960s and i think it was called Potty training in Three days. sorry i don't have time to google the title for you.

First i would get books on going potty, and DVD's about it. and read and watch them but i wouldn't say anything about "him" going. Also do you allow him to watch you or daddy go? sometimes that can be an incentive to be like daddy.
Since you have already tried and it didn't work, you are going to really really have to have a plan and stick with it.
But i'll tell you a few things as an experience mommy and a teacher in preschool and toddler classrooms. VEry Very few kids are going to Tell you that they are ready. Why should they, when you think about it. Just like very very few kids are going to respond with a "Yes" when you ask them if they need to go potty, because that means they have to stop playing and that's no fun. It is far far better to get into a routine of having them try when they wake up, after morning snack, after lunch, after pm snack, after dinner and before bed. In your case, I would just start with having him come with you into the bathroom at all of those times, and either wash his face, brush his teeth, or watch you, just to get him in there, then you can start in a few weeks to actually have him sit on the potty.
For me, i put the potty in the kitchen on the linolium, so kids didn't need to run all the way upstairs to our one bathroom, and they still felt like they were with everyone not shut off in a room with nothing fun in it.

one of the big tips is to give him lots and lots and lots of liquids so he HAS to go, that way he can be successful and again you don't ask him, you just take him. For BM's or just getting him to sit still long enough to go, you could try having him blow soap bubbles, make a special bathroom book basket, or have special only on the potty toys to play with, like a hand mirror.
And in this case, yes, i think i would go cold turkey, since you already tried once. I think our culture doesn't prepare us that potty training is a process, There will be accidents' It's your job as mom to make sure he learns from them, Have lots of spare outfits on hand, and get some carpet cleaner (for you to use after he has attempted to clean it up himself with a soapy rag), The three day method is great, it is very intense and specific, behavior reward, but to be honest it will be a full month before there won't be semi regular accidents, and a full year beyond that with out occasional accident's. Don't stress over them, keep potty training postitive, just like learning to drink from a cup there will be spills, just have him help you clean them up.
I would also suggest, doing night time all at once too so there is no more confusion. wake him up drowsy and put him right on the potty, and then take him back to bed, maybe at 10 pm and 4 am or something like that depending on what his rhythm is, Do limit liquids past 5 pm. but give him lots and lots during the day.
Honestly, people have potty trained kids at 18 mo, but it's hard and it's a lot of work for the mom, Wouldn't it be great to just have them do it themselves when they are 5 sure. but personally i wouldn't wait. Good luck!

Well Amy K. I think you should just throw in the towel and put him in pull-ups until he's 11. I know someone who did this and it really worked. She lives in Keota, IA. And it's really funny, because her sister is in this same predicament. Wait just a sec. Her kids name is Isaac too. OMG.
Ha Ha. I love you. love, S.

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Well Amy K. I think you should just throw in the towel and put him in pull-ups until he's 11. I know someone who did this and it really worked. She lives in Keota, IA. And it's really funny, because her sister is in this same predicament. Wait just a sec. Her kids name is Isaac too. OMG.
Ha Ha. I love you. love, S.

All kids are different. Boys take especially longer than girls a lot of the time to get it down. I'm a former pre-school teacher and we had some kids at 19 months potty trained and some almost 4 who still refused. We would go through package after package of pull-ups before some kids would get it.

At home we got really lucky. My boyfriends son is 2.5 yrs. Dad started putting him on the potty around March consistently throughout the day, whether he said he had to go or not. We had a potty board too. Big sticker for poop, little sticker for pee. In April we switched to training pants (told him he was a big boy now) and he was excited, still pooped in the training pants. We were at the park so we told him now we have to go home and not play. We went home and got changed, he never pooped in his pants again. He still kept peeing though! So we got those Pull-Ups with the cold sensation and used that for 2 weeks. We got down to (in the 5 days he is with us) 1 accident a week. That's when we put big boy underwear on. We had an underwear party and let him dance around in his new undies. We went shopping for more with him and he showed everyone in the store his new package of underwear. He had one accident that first week and was so grossed out by the pee on his legs that he hasn't peed in his pants since.
At this point he is fully potty trained since mid-May, even stops playing at the park or other out of the home activities (including a movie at a museum) to ask for the potty. Basically going cold turkey worked the best for us. A lot of parents in the pre-school I worked in said the same thing, that as soon as they did the undies it helped. We still have a bunch of the Pull-Ups leftover that will come in handy for our upcoming 12 hr road trip!
It's not a guarantee by any means, like I said every kid is different. I would try the underwear approach first before spending money on any program. Be patient. He'll get it and when that day comes you will be so VERY proud!
Good luck!!!

**Oh yeah, just to add something else. We also would, when he had an accident, make him take a quick bath with no toys to clean off. The no toys thing helped I think.

Try the no diaper approach outside in your backyard. It didn't seem as gross to me when the accidents happened outside. I also kept a potty chair on my deck so the kids wouldn't have to run as far when they felt the need to go.

My son turned 3 last Oct. And shortly after I decided to just put him underwear. He had been interested in the potty and gone a few times but would never tell us until he started wearing underwear. Now pooping has been a struggle as he was holding it and going in his pull-up overnight until recently when he finally went on the potty. By the way we started with using pull-ups for nap and night and now just night. Good luck!

I have seen this in action and it can work. It requires great commitment and follow thru and is like Potty training boot camp...for BOTH of you!

I do home childcare and had a parent (of a then 28 mos old boy) approach me with this last fall. I read it and agreed with many if the ideas so said I would support her if she did this. I like the idea of the child being trained, not me! There will be bumps and set backs..and the 3 days or so is the rough base...but it will work! Next we did a little girl whose parents were intrigued. She was 22 mos old. Now another boy who is 30 mos. I also have shared my experiences with other provider friends and parents. Many of these kids have never used the potty before.

It is work and takes commitment...just as it should be! Most of them used diapers at night for a while....(I hate pull ups..a diaper is much easier to change and for me, I like the idea that it is far removed from the notion of underwear, rather than so similar) But I love having no diapers on these older kids!

Just dont go into it half hearted.