Looking for Support - Marietta,GA

I tried to get pregnant for five months before about absolutely losing my mind. My husband had actually gotten to the point of telling me that we had to stop trying because he couldnt put with the non stop crying especially that monthly test that started becoming the five days before test and then the test when i was supposed to start and didn't. I can't tell you what to do or think or not to be sad. The only thing i can tell you is to be patient, be grateful for the one you have and just relax. After having so many problems i actually started talking to my friends and family only to find out that the whole thing about "it just takes one time" really does not happen as often as parents would like you to think. Actually i have a brother and sister in law similar to you that had one miracle boy and havent been able to have one since and lots of other friends with fertility issues.

The Centers for Disease Control has a section that works on reproductive health, and I know they have information on secondary infertility. Try looking on their web site for information that could help.

Best of luck to you!

I can completely identify with what you and your husband are going through. We tried for 2 years to get pregnant and had gone through two cycles of Clomid. My husband had already done his tests and my ob/gyn said that there didn't appear to be any physical reasons for why I shouldn't be able to get pregnant. So the day we had scheduled our first fertility appointment to begin further tests, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. After taking the test four more times with each test being positive, we knew we had finally succeeded. Just keep the faith and hope, stay positive, and reassure each other that no one is to blame. Not everyone gets pregnant on the first try. My husband and I just told each other that God was looking for the right angel to bring into our lives. She came into our lives on Monday and is a perfect angel. Good luck!

Hi J.-

Only those who have had infertility problems can truly sympathize with what you are going through. We were pregnant and it turned out to be a blighted ovum and then it took us 2 years to get pregnant...we ended up having artificial insemination and it worked the first time but there were many many months where I just knew, hoped, dreamed that this would be the month and I would be totally crushed when it wouldn't happened. I really became obsessed with trying to get pregnant and everyone would say you just need to relax....HOW frustrating!!! You have so much going for you in that you can get pregnant and you do have a son...that being said it doesn't lessen the pain you feel by not being able to get pregnant the 2nd time around. We ended up getting a pet, Douglas the cat, which took my mind off of trying to get pregnant. Try to be patient and take good care of yourself...it will happen

I don't know what the reason for your infertility but mine has to do with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). I found a couple of support groups at www.pcosupport.org, www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/Polycystic_Ovary_Syndrome..., www.soulcysters.com. You might also want to look into the Georgia Reproductive Specialists. Their website is www.ivf.com. I wish you the best of luck. I completely understand what you are going through. We had trouble getting pregnant with my daughter and are having the same troubles trying for number 2. It can be very depressing. And we don't have the money to try the invitro because no insurance I know will cover it.

So sorry to hear about your troubles. Like you, I have already had children, but am not having any luck now. I had 2 kids with my first husband and my angels are now 7 and 8 years old. I had an ectopic (tubal) pregnancy that required emergency surgery when my youngest child was not quite 2 and have wanted another child ever since. After I divorced and remarried, I got pregnant and had a miscarriage. My husband and I tried Clomid but this landed me in surgery again with a large cyst that had to be removed. We are afraid to try Clomid again, but are not ready to give up. We plan to switch to a new OBGYN and see what our options are, as my old OBGYN offered no advice or alternative options when I lost the last baby. We are not opposed to adoption (my husband was adopted, as was his brother) but are still hopeful that we can have another child on our own.
I wish you the best and know that there are ALOT of success stories out there and that you could be the next one. I will swap prayers with you...you pray for us and we will pray for you!

Jaime - this is definatley a struggle I understand. My husband and I tried for 2 years and then headed to a fertility clinic (love my doctor if you need a referal). 3 rounds of IUI (insemination) were unsuccessful so we headed to IVF where I'm now waatching my 1year old son try to dismantle the play room. We were in the unexplained category so very frustrating. I do understand how you cry every month at your period and try not to think about it but are constantly thinking about it. If you need someone to talk it through with feel free to email me - it's hard when none of your friends know what you're going through but are trying to be supportive. One of my friends is now going through IVF and to hve my experience to help her through has actually been helpful for me. I believe they have support groups through the fertility clinics.

All I can say, is that if I had gotten pregnant any other time than when I did, I would have a different child and this one is the light of my life. NOt to say I wouldn't have loved another one, but this one is truly special and meant to be here. Hang in there and know there is a plan. Best of luck and keep in touch.

All the ladies have given great advice. I wish u the best of luck.

We tried for 8 months too and then on month #9 it was successful. But that was only because of a dye test they did at the hospital. You may have already had this test to check to see if your tubes are open, but lots of my friends had this test done and became pregnant the next month just like I did. It must open up the tubes when the dye runs through. Now I have 2 babies a year and nine days apart. I do know how upsetting it is to find out each month that you aren't pregnant. Lots of people have lots of different ways to get pregnant, but I am sure you will have your own story of how you were worried and then all the sudden you found out #2 was on its way. I'll be praying for you in the meantime. (-: