HA! No, I am not laughing at you, been there, done that, am there, will be there....
My mom is very opinionated and when I was younger I would grit my teeth and try not to answer the phone because I KNEW she was going to boss me around! Then my kids got older and I didn't know who to turn to for advice so I called mom, WOW! She learned alot! Then my marriage fell apart and I got the lecutures again...but also got the hugs and reassurances I needed so VERY much. My kids grew to be teenagers and I didn't know how to handle them. OMG! My mother started spewing out of my mouth! How did she GET in there??? I remarried, took on 5 stepchildren and had another of my own. OUCH! How do I handle this??? YES MOTHERRRR I know, it was my own doing! Now I have a daughter who is getting married and I don't want to let her go. Bossy me steps in, EWW you want to wear THAT wedding dress?? Where are you going to live? Are you going to make enough money?? What if it doesn't work out??
And you know what? I talk to my mom at least twice a week (she lives in Oregon) and I hate that I can't reach through the phone and give her a hug. She is 80, still giving me *advice*. Now I smile and say, "Thanks Mom, I love you too!". She laughs and apologizes for being so bossy and I tell her GO AHEAD because I know she love me.
Set your boundries but know that she loves you so very much. Be glad that she is nearby, she could be 2,000 miles away....