I understand how you feel about being sensitive in that area, I am too. I did manage to breast feed four children though. It really is easier then pumping and feeding. I know this is going to seem long, but there are many disadvantages to expressed breast milk (EBM). If you really aren't interested in reading any of the benefits, then just read the last paragraph about the pump that I recommend.
Some of the benefits of breastfeeding over bottle feeding are:
1. Skin-to-skin contact
Feeding an infant at-breast necessitates some skin-to-skin contact between the infant and mother. Mothers who hold their infants skin-to-skin often experience an increase in breast milk volume and possibly a greater production of maternal milk antibodies to specific pathogens in the infant's surroundings.
Taking breast milk at the breast rather than from a bottle offers other advantages to the infant. Breast milk loses some of its nutritional and immunological properties by freezing, thawing and reheating in the process of expressing the breast milk prior to feeding it with a bottle, which reduces the protective benefits offered by breast milk. For example, ascorbic acid levels decrease significantly when stored at low temperatures, and have been found to drop 40% when reheating.
2. Infant oral developmental effects
In addition to the potential physiological, nutritional, immunological and more efficient advantages offered by receiving breast milk at-breast, infants may benefit from fewer dental problems later in life. Breastfeeding at-breast has a positive effect on the development of an infant's oral cavity including optimal mandibular development, strengthening of the jaw muscles, and increased nasal cavity space. During breastfeeding, the tongue, lower lip and mandible move in concert to draw the milk into the mouth by a stripping action, gently shaping the infant's hard palate. This process leads to an enhanced formation of the hard palate producing improved future teeth alignment and a decrease in malocclusions. Whereas the shape of the breast-nipple is in a geometric form consistent with the infant's mouth, the artificial nipple in bottle-feeding hinders the formation of the jaw muscles. Palmer also proposes that the increase in nasal space may have a significant effect on the person's breathing efficiency, reducing later problems with snoring and obstructive sleep apnea.
3. Reduced risk of breast trauma
Although electric breast pumps have been crucial for the milk supply of many mothers of infants, they also offer some potential disadvantages. Problems with breast pumps may be overlooked and contribute to ineffective emptying of the breast, especially if they are underpowered or poor fitting. Some researchers have suggested that the breast pump's reduced physiologic mechanism may negatively affect emptying, especially in the periphery of the breast and may be a contributing factor to the association between pump use and mastitis. Another disadvantage of breast pumps are that they work primarily on suction, and may be ineffective if set at too low a level (<150 mmHg) or cause damage to the nipple skin if set too high (>200 mmHg)
4. Lack of breastfeeding is a risk to mothers' health
It is reasonable that when mothers are successful breastfeeding at the breast, they are more likely to continue breastfeeding longer, and reduce the health risks of not breastfeeding. Breastfeeding reduces mothers' risk of developing type 2 diabetes later in life. In an analysis of data from 47 epidemiological studies in 30 countries, breastfeeding was also found to reduce the relative risk of breast cancer by 4.3% for every year of a woman's life spent breastfeeding.
5. Psychological effects of breastfeeding
The act of breastfeeding has also been associated with positive psychological effects for the mother in respect to mood and stress. A study among mothers who were both breastfeeding and bottle feeding. After a breastfeeding session, the mothers were found to have a reduction in perceived stress and negative mood relative to what was found after a bottle feeding. In contrast, bottle feeding appeared to decrease positive mood. The researchers suggested that the higher levels of the hormone oxytocin released by breastfeeding contributed to the decrease in negative mood. They also speculated that over time breastfeeding may condition the mother to regard her infant positively leading to greater mother-infant attachment, and the decrease in negative mood and stress associated with breastfeeding may reduce the risk postpartum depression.
6. Practical advantages for mothers
Finally, there are the practical advantages for a mother, who transitions to at-breast feedings rather than continuing to feed EBM. One benefit is the savings in time and effort of feeding. Hours of the mothers' time, which were previously spent in expressing breast milk and later preparing it for re-feeding and cleaning bottles and breast pump equipment, are saved. The milk is always available in the breast at an ideal temperature. The time and effort spent in pumping and re-feeding around the clock has clear advantages for the infant with immature sucking skills, but once the infant is able to efficiently feed at-breast, these efforts may become overwhelming for the mother leading to early weaning to infant formula. There may also be a considerable cost savings to the mother in not having to rent or buy a breast pump.
My bottom line was that it is more beneficial to mother and baby to feed directly from the breast. You also don't have to get up in the middle of the night to make bottles, you don't have to clean & sterilize bottles. Don't get me wrong, I did own a breast pump and did use it so that I wasn't the only one capable of feeding the baby.
Just give breastfeeding a try. It isn't as awkward as it may seem and it truly was painless. If it doesn't work for you but you still want to give your baby breast milk via bottle, don't feel like a failure. For many women breastfeeding just isn't for them. I have tried many different types of pumps over the years and I hated electric, they were expensive, often painful and produced very little milk. I had the most luck with the Avent breast pump. It causes no discomfort and extracted the most milk compared to all of the other pumps that I tried. They offer manual pumping and also an electric model (their's is the only one that I know of that doesn't cause discomfort). Here is a link with information on their pumps: http://www.aventamerica.com/products/breastfeeding.asp