Hi Ladies. I am currently 7 weeks pregnant and went to my OB/GYN yesterday and discovered that there was no fetal heartbeat. This is my second miscarriage. This is almost the same situation that happened with my last pregnancy, except a few weeks further along. I have a wonderful 5 1/2 year old son, but I really want him to have a brother or a sister. So... my question is has anyone else been through a similar situation and later had a successful pregnancy? The doctor told me both times they truly think it's just chromosomal and just rotten luck, but I'm feeling pretty discouraged right now. I had no problems with my first pregnancy, just don't understand why things aren't working out for us. Thanks for your input.
Addendum: To answer a couple of questions, my cycles are irregular so my appointment was scheduled as if I had a 28 day cycle which would have put me a few weeks further along. I originally had an u/s 13 days ago and they discovered that I was only measuring 5 wks along. The doctor told me we were just going to have to give it a little more time to see if it was truly a viable pregnancy or if I was having a miscarriage again. So that is why it was done a little earlier than usual. Timing was just off and the doctor just wanted to give me some answers without me having to wait so long. After my repeat u/s yesterday it was unfortunately clear things were not normal. Beside there not being a heartbeat, the fetal pole was developing properly. It was pretty obvious.
First, HUGS. I am so sorry you're going through this.
But I agree with others. I've always heard not to panic about the heartbeat until 10 weeks -- 7 weeks may be too early to see. Do some research and give it a bit more time.
Don't give up. I agree with the other ladies that it is early to hear a heartbeat.
Did you schedule an ultrasound? That may be the only way to know.
Good luck,
Dawn
Out of curiousity, isn't seven weeks along still just a tad early to see the heartbeat? At seven weeks with my daughter, I don't recall them seeing anything other than the amniotic sac. Checking for a heartbeat didn't happen until two or three weeks later.
If this indeed is what's going on, first of all, I send to you my sincerest empathy and hopes that your wishes for a sibling for your wonderful little guy come true.
Did your doctor tell you what your HcG levels were? If at seven weeks they are diminishing, that's pretty clear that the pregnancy isn't viable. But you mention nothing about this.
E.
I am sorry you have to go through this, but I also have to ask: Did the doc check anything else? Like you HCG Levels? Usually you can't get a heart beat at 7 weeks, it's just too early. When I was pregnant with my first I was bleeding heavily and at the 10 week mark they had the hardest time finding the heart beat. It took 3 nurses before they finally heard it. And that was at 10 weeks! All I'm saying is that if he only check for a heartbeat then you need to go back and get your levels checked. If you know for sure that you did miscarry then I am so sorry and just want to tell you no to lose hope. I had a miscarriage between my 2nd and 3rd child. It was heartbreaking, but I did conceive very fast afterward and had a healthy baby. You will get pregnant again, you just had a little bump in the road.
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I am not sure if this is the case, but I found of with my last one really early I was pregnant becasue what I thought was an ovarian cysts burst turned out to be me being pregnant, then they thought it was a ectopic.....I remember at about 6-7 weeks they wanted me to abort because they ssaw no heartbeat, and didn't believe it was viable. I am happy to say I prayed about it and didn't and now I have my beautiful girls Paige who is 3 and so full of life! Please pray about it and know that everything works out, have faith!
I've met lots of miracle babies. It can happen!
Take heart. Everything will work out the way it is supposed to work out. Take good care of yourself, physically, emotionally, mentally. SO, when the time comes, you will be ready.
Remember, God can make a way, where there is no way.
Hug Hug Hug.... I had the same problem before my first child was born. Then it took 3 years once we started trying for me to become pregnant with my second.
Just try to remember that the mis happens for a reason and that reason is not your fault.
Hug Hug Hug
I will say a prayer for you!
I'm so sorry for your loss. Someone in my family miscarried her second baby (she already had one healthy baby already) at 6 weeks and got pregnant again within 6 months and subsequently gave birth to a healthy baby. You're in my thoughts.
I'm so sorry about having two losses. I only had one miscarriage between my two successful pregnancies, and I'm not sure how I would have handled going through that experience again.
I do have a friend who had a successful first pregnancy, three miscarriages, and then a successful fifth pregnancy.
All I know is to take it one pregnancy at a time. Another person on here mentioned something about baby aspirin and progesterone. Perhaps looks into some of those options?
Again, I'm so sorry about this experience. Follow your instinct in how to proceed from here. Some people need to to focus only on grieving. If this is you, go ahead and take the time to truly feel your sadness. Some people name their lost babies and even buy or create something tangible to have as a physical memory. Taking the time to feel the pain will help you heal, and prepare you to move forward when you are ready.
Some people need to take action simultaneously with their grief. Though I know some doctors recommend waiting a certain amount of time before trying to conceive, I know I couldn't find any research to back up that suggestion. Do your own research to see if there's any reason to wait before trying to conceive. Of course, this is only if trying to conceive immediately is what feels right for you. I really think everyone is affecting by miscarriage in such a different way. It's very personal.
I'm surprised you even saw your OB at 7 weeks. My midwife doesn't want to see you till 10 weeks, when a heartbeat is totally guaranteed.
my understanding is that 8 weeks is the real tell tail week for fetal pole. You are still in a grey zone at 7 weeks especially if you don't really know for sure when you conceived if you have irregular cycles. That said, half of all pregnancies are lost so you're just going to have to get through the next week until the next ultrasound. I have had three miscarriages and two full term pregnancies. I hope you get good news.
I do have hope for you...I went through this five times, and the sixth time was my son. My husband wanted to give up after the second and defiantly after the third.
I would ask about taking a baby aspirin a day...it can help if you have borderline clotting disorders...and ask about using a progesterone supplement, that was what we used the sixth time and my son is here and again with his sister two years later.
I am so sorry for your loss...it is so hard...you can Pm me if you need to...hugs!!!
dont give up! nature and your body have a way of knowing that something isnt right. i know this doesnt make it any easier but i truly believe if you have one healthy kiddo you will have more! good luck hun!
I'm so sorry S. *(hugs)* I can't imagine how you are feeling.
Prayers & good thoughts for you that you will be blessed with as many children as your heart desires!
Statistically MOST women having unprotected sex are pregnant 4-6 times per year. It's just that those who are TTC are the only ones who suffer through knowing how many times the DNA doesn't zipper correctly. So while it sucks, the upside is that you're in good company.
It takes 3 or more mid to end of 1st trimester pregnancies, and 6-12 early 1st trimester chemical pregnancies for specialists to be brought in, it's THAT common. It's just not well known outside of fertility circles, because it's not something people broadcast a lot.
But on a personal level? (I know the above sounds cold). Yes. Too many early 1st to count, and 2 little girls... The oldest one made it to 6-7mo before I miscarried. All before I had my really amazing 9yo son :)
And I'm with you on the irregular periods. When I went in for my first US he could have been anywhere between a couple weeks and 4 months along. Turned out to be 11 weeks!
