K.R.
I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your situation. I have been there! Three years later, although it's still hard now, I remember those first several months/year. Hardest of my life. But you will get through this. I remember everyone telling me it would get better and not to worry. I couldn't imagine how I was going to survive it on my own all while dealing with the emotional part of being betrayed by someone you were married to with children. I don't have a lot of advice on the legal part, as I got my own attorney and put it on the credit card because I knew who I was dealing with at that point and obviously could not trust him. I am still paying it off but I feel was definitely worth it. Even though I left the house that I was a homemaker for and stay at home mom and hadn't worked in 7 years, I left with almost nothing and started over. So scary! I made mistakes though, as my name is still on the deed and he hasn't refinanced and is now falling behind affecting my credit.
It's overwhelming. Take one step at a time. Have a support system. And take care of yourself! Mentally, physically, & spiritually. I just wanted to offer my support and let you know you are not alone and others know how it feels. Good luck, and if you need to talk, feel free to contact me. :)
Hang in there.