Lonely Mom!

Girly I feel your pain!!

I am 23, full-time working mother of a beautiful little girl who is 3. I also have a wonderful husband. But my problem is my 3 best friends who I grew up with, 2 have gotten married and have kids and moved to Florida and the other split from her fiance who she has a kid with and is running around enjoying the single life again. I work with all older women who are at least 20 years older than me and dont share the same interests.

Awhile ago, I tried joining a play group with my daughter and signed her up for dance class. The play group was a bust, all the mothers were about organic this and natural that and stay home moms who were very strict with relgion and stuck in there ways. im a little bit more laid back!!!! LOL

The dance class was a bit better but once again I find that all these moms are stay home moms and I work full time. They were arranging play dates in the middle of the day during the week. I love my job and get to take my daughter with me and also go to school online for Fitness and Nutrition.

Im at a loss with you, sometimes I think I should start a group on here with moms from around the area who can get together at places each month, relax have a glass of wine, some food, talk and have fun with!!!

Keep in touch if you just want someone to BS with!!!

Jenna

L.,

While I am much older than you (I have a daughter your age and 4 sons to follow), I was where you are now and yes it does suck. It took me a long time to finally meet people. Now my big problem is that my youngest is going to be 9 in December, the majority of the parents are a lot younger than my husband and I so we are shunned; so see you are not alone. After I got married I moved to Meriden and found that all the couples in the condo either worked all day, didn't have babies, or were elderly so I was isolated. The friends, who I thought were my best friends, totally blew me off once I had the baby. I couldn't go out drinking and became so domesticated because as you know that precious little baby is dependent on you 24/7

Let me offer you a suggestion, I have a 24 year old daughter (Becky) who absolutely adores being around babies and would love to have a friend who is not intimidated by babies and kids or large families for that matter. She is a nursing student (with me) and is going into pediatric nursing. You don't live far from Wallingford so why don't you e-mail her and maybe the 2 of you could connect.
Here is both mine and Becky's personal e-mail addresses, e-mail her, me, us, whatever you like, we are both here for you.
T.: ____@____.com
Becky: ____@____.com

Hey you said you work 45 minutes from home, what town? Just curious. Becky has an apartment up in Bloomfield during the semesters with my older son and comes home on weekends to work and spend time with her little brothers. All of her friends graduated or don't live in the area.

One other thing, if your friends were your true friends they would accept you with or without your daughter and husband and be a part of your of your life unconditionally. So learn who your true friends really are, I did.

Hugs,
T.

Hi L.,
I know exactly how you feel... when I had my daughter 3 years ago -whose name is Lily too-the same thing happened to me. My friends all of a sudden stopped calling when I was pregnanat and then pretty much after I had my daughter, I found myself alone... I did have a supportive husband but its not the same as having a few good girlfriends.. Anyways, it has gotten better as my daughter had gotten older and I've made friends with other mommies. Which is great because you don't feel bad "boring" them with talk of your kids.. Have you tried joining some of those mommy and me groups? It didn't really work out for me but you never know. Good luck!! Hang in there!

I'm the same way. Either all my friends live out of state, or they don't have a family, so they go out all to the clubs all the time. It gets hectic, but I go out and do things with my son. Summer is easy to do things, but now that winter is here I have no idea what to do. You live near me, we should meet one day. We can be creative together. LOL!