S.J.
I have 2 sons, 4 1/2 and 3, they are still a little picky, but it's getting better every day. My kids mastered a fork LONG before a spoon. We had a fork under control by the time they were about a year old. Stabbing is much easier than scooping, so there is seldom anything spilled on the floor. I got them toddler forks but not the ones with the really rounded ends because they didn't work well for us. They have to have enough of a point to pierce the food. I still cook nice meals for my DH and myself, but I'll fix the boys something I know they'll eat if they won't eat what we're having. They love meat and it's easy to stab. If you look at what you daughter is eating, it's not a bad selection. When I was about 2, my mother said I ate cereal, green beans, hot dogs, and cheese. The doctor told her I was eating a balanced diet (4 main food groups), that I only needed about 2 tablespoons of food a day, and that when I was hungry, I would eat. Keep trying, it get better!!