Lazt 17 Yr Old

Sometimes the best decision is to let go. She isn't ready for this and it appears neither is the father. You can't force this on her. The only one who will suffer in the long wrong is the baby.

There is a home out there for that child who will love him more than anything. That is what parents do. She is not a parent nor is she ready to be a parent. Babies are adaptable and in no time would bond with his new family.

If she wants to put the baby up for adoption, you don't have much to say about that. That might be her way to show how much she loves him.

Frankly, adoption may be the best thing... it doesn't sound as if either parent is able to fully care for the child.

Why not give this child the BEST chance in life and allow a couple with a stable, loving relationship adopt him? I realize it is hard to give up your grandchild... but if you all truly love the child, think about what is best for the child.

Even though the child is 5 months old, he will bond quickly with his new family.

im sorry, if she has made it clear that she dosnt want baby. she most likely wont care for the child untill she is in her 30s or so. i think its an unfare situation. how is the adoption system their

You can't make her want the baby. From what I have read in all your posts the answer is let her put the child up for adoption before all of this really messes the baby up.

It is time to do what is best for the baby. If she does not want him he should be with a family that will bend over backwards for him. She can still love him in her own way, as you said, and give him a better start at life. The baby should not be used to teach your daughter a lesson. He deserves so much more. We tried to adopt before my husband got sick. Believe me, adopting parents jump through hoops and hoops in these programs year after year for the chance to make some lucky child the center of their lives. Good luck to all of you.

Hi, C.:
Ask her to give you custody of the baby.
Get the papers and agree to visitation placed
in the document.

I am sure she has alot of emotional issues having a baby out of wedlock.

After you get the custody, then be assertive with her to go get a job.
Good luck.
D.

You need to have a long talk with her about understanding that adoption is PERMANENT. She cannot do this on a whim or after a bad day. To give up that baby, let him start knowing another couple as his parents then change her mind would be cruel for everyone involved. She needs to seriously weigh her options. Perhaps an open adoption where she can still know her child, get pictures, write letters, etc. would be best or maybe she needs to sever all ties until she and the baby are both grown up! You also need to do some soul searching. I have no doubt you love this child and want what's best for him. Are you able to care for him? Will you be able to care for him for the next 18ish years? Your age, health, wealth, etc. all need to be considered. Your husband needs to be involved as well. 1 thing is for certain, she needs to sign over custody/guardianship to someone.

Sounds like a person in this family needs to sit down with her and tell her they will take the baby and are asking her to sign over legal guardianship. This will give her the chance to take a break and still have a part in his life when she grows up. She is young and will have a change of heart many times.

If she wants to put the baby up for adoption a family member is a good option so that the costs are less, no attorney's involved I believe, and all the family still get to know their baby as it grows up.

see if you can legally adopt the baby-you can't take a chance ruining the life of a human being-one thing if it's a pet we're talking about-in this case-a helpless infant.