Laid Off?

This might sound mean, and I don't mean it to, but your baby was 14 weeks old in mid-May. I'm not going to do the math, but your baby must be approaching 5 months old, give or take.
You are working part time in the office, your husband is still on paternity leave and it sounds like neither of your employers are loving it.
I know how precious time is, believe me. I've been a single mother for a long time and working so sucks when all you want is time with your kids, but let me tell you something. Time doesn't pay the bills.
One or the other of you, if not both, is going to have to show that you can be at work, full time, or risk getting replaced. That's just a fact of life in this economy.
If you get laid off, you will each get less than half of your salaries and you said yourself you've been unsuccessful securing another job for 2 years.
Try being unemployed and not being able to secure another position.
I'm just saying....

If you feel like an employer wants to lay you off for taking too much time off, the only thing I can suggest is proving that you can be there to do your job.
There are too many people looking for work and employers know it. There are too many people willing to take a job that might not seem that "important" to a current employee. Everyone is jockeying for position right now as a matter of necessity.
I personally believe that family and children come first, but if you have no way to financially support your family, it's way more stressful than the alternative.
Which of your jobs pays better? Which one has better benefits?
If you think you can make it on one income, choose wisely.
If you're getting signals that people are getting fed up.....
Buck up to save your job while you continue to look for other work.

I meant no offense and I wish you the best.

I hate my job, going to work everyday sucks, but the alternative is not paying my bills, so I go, do my best, and thank god I have a job.

They may want to lay you off, but until they do, keep on working! I know it may be hard, but ignore the feeling that they don't want you there. Could you be misinterpreting these feelings? If it is really obvious you might be let go, confront your supervisor and ask if there is anything that you have done that is detrimental to your job? Many times, when confronted they tend to back off - they would rather slither off after letting you go, but once they know you are 'on to them' sometimes their tune changes. Or, I guess you could just be opening the door for the conversation to let you go - so be careful.

To keep from being laid off, can you work full-time in the office? Can your husband take a pay cut to keep his job?

Right now, any work is better than no work. I applied for teaching positions for 2 years with no luck and decided to go back into corporate work - I am having no luck there either!

I hope things work out for you and your husband!

Today was my last day at work as I am on a two week layoff (they wanted to get it in during the holiday so i would not get my holiday pay). Everyone in my department was laid off except for a couple of people. Even though I'm going back to work I'm very frustrated. I will be laid off again for a few weeks for around the August holiday. Again they can not have to pay me for being home during the holiday. A few people in the office had their layoff's rescinded at the last minute and I don't understand how when they have less senority than me. So I guess that will be a battle for another time.
Also, with these layoff's i am facing a 10% pay cut.
And the bills are just crazy. It seems like people are just crawling out the woodwork asking for money or some type of payment for something. And we still are paying for childcare so we can work.
so, I know how you feel. Just take it day by day. Don't worry or think about not feeling welcomed. Long as you get paid is the only thing that matters.

What a situation.... it is tenuous... because even if it is not legal and discriminatory... if you get legal about it, then in the future even if you retain your jobs... the atmosphere will be unpleasant... and/or if you then leave the Employer, they will probably not want to give a recommendation or references.... beyond what is just perfunctory.
But legally, they CANNOT give a subjective bad word about you, nor anything "personal" in opinion, about past employees. There are laws about that.

DOCUMENT everything... because it will come in handy.
How did your Husband find out they are trying to fire him/lay him off....????
The Employer, if they are smart... will have also gotten an Attorney for counsel on how to do it, 'legally.' So they don't get sued etc.

I don't have an answer for you.
It is a hard situation...

My friend's Husband, got laid off. It was due to the economy... it was a high level white collar job. But because jobs in the field are hard to find and much competition... he is now doing yard work/Landscaping... for a company. It is a job. Although not in his field. But it was through a friend.
You have to "network".... and via friends, word of mouth, business contacts... it helps in finding or hearing about jobs.

Or there are Temp agencies... which can lead to permanent positions.
That is a good option.

Update your resumes... ahead of time... and get any recommendation letters/contacts that you can.

all the best,
Susan

I have worked in the climate of downsizing and layoffs. I survived the first three springtime layoff then -- BLAMMO-- I got laid off. It was NOT the worst thing that has ever happened in my life. I immediately was offered a job PT, (as I was at the time of my layoff), by a vendor that I dealt with and collected my unemployment AND worked to earn the max w/out if affecting my UI. Later I was asked back when things picked up.
BUT--who really cares if you're "welcome" or not? It's a job! My best advice is do your best work and ignore the "emotional climate." You have done nothing wrong. As for your hubby, I hope that he is not laid off--legally, I don't think they can do it for the reasons mentioned BUT all they need to do is eliminate the position (technically--just change the job title) and they can do what they want...at least if he;s not union, etc....
Best of luck. I'd keep looking IF you want to leave but I would not let myself be intimidated into leaving for that reason!

hey honey, i know how you feel only i've been sole support of my home for almost 1 year. at the end of each pay day, i wonder how the hell i'm getting to work (40 miles away). we live so far out because that's where his kids are, and moved out away from the city to be closer to them and get more time for them. he found a job through a church member, but just days after he got that, he hurt his knee, and now can work at all for anyone until that's fixed and possible surgery....My husband and i met through work (where i am currently) and we both knew that one of us was fixing to go despite our hard working efforts. just save up as much as you can so you don't get caught by surprise, and you can still pay that elec bill and keep the baby fed and diapered.

Sounds like it's time for both of you to head back to the office full time.
As for the feelings, after my 2nd child I thought they liked the temp more than me. Turns out it was my hormones getting the best of me. They were thrilled to have me back full time. It could be office gossip about the potential lay off for your husband. Maybe someone else wants his job and is hoping he will quit if he hears something like that. Best of luck to you.