Lacking Confidence?

Personally, I would go to the doctor. While I know we all get in funks and crabby, and feel this way...you may need to talk to someone. Someone who can give you guidance.

Good luck sweetie.

Try getting some alone time too, I know I have to have that time just for me.

Really, more than anything else.. EXERCISE.. now that is hard to do when you feel a lack of confidence and as you say, ugly... but hey... IF you want to get out of that rut.. you have to begin somewhere.. your post on here was a good first step... try and build on this... how are your eating habits? I know when mine are bad, I tend to feel worse.. so what have I done to feel better.. I have begun eliminating gluten from my diet and sugar... so far, it's been about a week and I have to say, I do feel better. so much so that I have begun to exercise MUCH more which in turn, helps your body make serotonin which in turns helps you feel GOOD..... it's not always easy breaking out of a a rut, especially what might be postpartum depression??? but more than anything I have ever tried and that which worked the best is exercise. it's not easy but hey, it beats the alternative of feeling lousy.. decide how bad you want to feel good .. so to speak.. and begin doing things. even if little.. could be you take the kids out in the stroller and walk a mile or IF at all possible, can your husband watch them for a bit while you go to some sort of organized exercise group? the steps needn't be big.. what's important is that you are in fact "stepping" ...... in the right direction..

you can beat the blues and yes, there is no quick fix.... yet, keep in mind.. apart from the things you can't change, there are many that you can... start small.. how about having a healthy breakfast... take stairs instead of elevators... park farther away at lots... you have more power than you think..it's just a matter of harnassing it... you can do it :):)

I'd say to start exercising. I know it's hard, but if you did, you'd feel better. You would feel less fat and ugly.

Also, put on some makeup everyday and dress in something that is comfortable, but pretty. That will help.

Sometimes if we think we look better, we'll feel better. Also, eat some protein in the morning, and half a piece of fruit for snacks several times a day. If you eat too much fruit at once, or sweet stuff, it raises your blood sugar up like a spike (if you get what I mean), which feels good, but THEN you have a big drop in blood sugar, which makes you feel awful. Then you really FEEL that funk you are in.

Drink a lot of water too. It will help.

I know these things seem small, and maybe you think they are insignificant. But they do help some, and maybe that's enough to get you through some of the mess you are in.

I hope hubby comes up and hugs you and tells you he loves you.

Dawn

I think you've gotten some great advice here. Think about what could put you in a good mood? a new hairstyle or fresh cut? a new shirt and earings? time to read a good book in peace? a movie night with Hubby or night out with girlfriends? Make it happen. Schedule in a daily 20 minutes just for you and a weekly two hours. Do it for your family if you wont do it for self -it will make you a better mom and a better wife. I know you're busy and it is easy to say there's no time when we're overwhelmed with daily life but it is essential to MAKE ourselves happy by being nice to ourselves so we can be nice to our families

Oh no! The day started out so jolly here today, too!

kk, here's my wish for all the overwhelmed moms in the world (I'm no longer one of them since my kids are older teenagers, but I've BEEN there honey!):

May ALL the younger moms have a dream today (well, DAYdream, since so few of us get enough sleep), to a day when things calm down, more money is available, enough bad things have happened so that they realize it IS gonna be ok afterall, when they watch that IMPOSSIBLE toddler walk across the stage at college graduation. To when they see a pair of jeans they like for themselves and just BUY them.

To when they can SLEEP all night. To when they can eat what THEY like for dinner, while seated, across the table from another grown up!

To when they can silently shrug at differenting parenting styles cuz CLEARLY their style is what's working for them.

To when ALL of their children effectively wipe their own butts, don't vomit on the new sofa, have their own JOBS, and everything in between.

To when someone asks THEM how they are and waits for an answer.

To when it doesn't MATTER so damn much that the man can't put his own freakin' dishes in the sink or doesn't occur to him to BEND OVER and pick up the toy he keeps tripping over, and when he wants sex, you want it TOO since today you went shopping for new bras, shaved your armpits, AND had a glass of wine while waiting for him to get home from work.

May THAT day come quickly to ALL the moms, but not SO quickly that we don't get to savour the feeling of an infant sleeping on our chests, or the first 20 feet the 1st grader makes it with no training wheels.

:)

Cut yourself some slack, with 3 kids you have your hands full, I have two and feel the same way at times.

What helps me tremendously is exercising, it does wonders for my attitude and confidence and really gives me more energy. You could walk/jog with the baby in the stroller and the other 2 could walk or bike along with you. If I don't have time, I sometimes just go outside and run around with the kids and then stop and do different exercises like push-ups, crunches, lunges...it's like circuit training and very funny because they love to try the exercises as I'm doing them.

I've also found that little things like doing my hair and maybe putting on a little make-up and something nice to wear helps me feel better about myself.

First of all honey, give yourself a break. You have a lot on your plate w/3 kids. Kudos to you super-mom! :)

I am a hot mess w/1 of my own & an older, more self sufficient SD.

Take it easy.
Give yourself a break.
Take a break where you can get it.
Do something nice for yourself every day even if it's buying a mocha, some cheap flowers at the supermarket, calling an old friend for a quick, nice talk, turn on the comedy channel for a few mins for a laugh (laughter is the best medicine).

Make a list of what you are thankful for.

Possibly see a dr to rule out anything serious.

Know that this will pass.

Get some time out for yourself when hubby gets home. Even if it's to go to the library to read a magazine in quiet.

take a walk

go to a park for a few mins

hang in there honey. you do a lot!

I went through it too! Number three is tough! Give yourself time, you'll be back! Take the advice you've gotten. Say thankful prayers every night. I just finished the book, The Untethered Soul and loved it. It helps to read those zen things now and then to get in the moment and appreciate what you have.

How old is baby? Try exercising... it gives you time to yourself and releases happy feeling endorphins.

Or, if you hate exercising (I DO!!), tell your husband to find a sitter and take you on a date!! Do your hair, get dressed up, throw on some heels... nothing makes me feel like less of a mom and more of a woman than some 5 inch heels and make up :)

You're still learning to balance your new family dynamic... you'll get there :)