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I understand exactly! My husband and I have a great relationship, but we have definately had periods where we are hardly even touching (holding hands etc.) What we have learned in that the more time that passes beteen encounters the harder it gets. I have also learned that for me even if I'm not in the mood I usually enjoy it so I have learned to not let that be the show stopper. My husband has just learned that it usually means a little more foreplay...

If you are on the pill, the hormones in them can deminsh your sex drive. I was on the lowest dose pill for several years and this cause me to have a deminshed drive. I had to quit using it and was off of it for a while before I had a turn around. Also any birthcontrol that uses the same hormones as the pill like the patch or the Nuva Ring can also cause you to feel this way. If this is not the case for you, you can ask your gyn to draw blood and messure your hormones. You may be low in one or another and this can also cause you problems sexually. I'm sure that stress can cause an imbalance in hormones too, if it is constant. I know how fustrating this can be, I was there for quite a while before I really started trying to find the root of the problem. Just try to be open with your husband and if he knows that you are actively trying to solve the problem and you keep open and honest with him about it, maybe he will be more reassured. Good Luck, and if you need to talk, feel free to message me.

Stress and lack of sleep are big factors in not being in the mood. Who can be when you are drained or too tense? I would get it checked out with a dr, too.

Good luck.

You could be starting Menopause. Also over the years I went through this too. Now at almost 59 I have no interest but I know when I lost both husbands who left me was because of not giving them what all men want. So be very careful. We want affection and men want sex. If they do not get it at home they will wonder. Not all but a lot do. Mine did and I will never trust again.

This happened to me to and it ended up being the birth control I was taking. When you see your OB maybe you can ask abt that as well.

What everyone else has mentioned sounds like very good advice.

I went through the same thing a few years back after we had our first child. I felt so bad because I just had no interest in sex at all. It was really hard to deal with and now my husband and I are able to talk about it and he even admits how hard it was on him and how bad he felt during the whole time. I do think communication is a big thing-I didn't want to tell my husband what I was going through because at first I didn't really realize and then later I just felt bad about the whole situation. It took me a 1 to 1 1/2 years to get over and now that I look back it probably was some type of hormore problem (considering having the baby and all)and I had just never thought about it.
I think go to the OB/GYN and get checked out and definatly open up to your husband and let him know it's not him and that you are trying to fix it.

Good luck

Depression can be a big factor, too. Don't know where you are on this, but it can sure suck the desire right out of you & added to external stressors, well, there goes libido!

D.

Stephanie,
A friend of mine had the same issue- it turned out to be a lack of testosterone for her!
Like already mentioned, go see your OB/GYN and get a hormone, thyroid, etc... check.
Life's too short to not enjoy :-)

D.

See your OB GYN for possible estrogen/progesterone imbalances.

When we think one way and our body is responding another it is almost always a hormonal issue.

K. @ The Nestingplace

This also ties to the hormone levels, but if you're on birth control, that can certainly put a damper on your libido.

Good luck!

Okay, I didn't see if anyone responded back with this, but this has seemed to work for us. I also have little sex drive but want to please my husband and meet his needs so we came up with a schedule. It happened by mistake- we hadn't done it for like 2 months (I just totally forgot- didn't realize and then felt bad about it), so we did it twice in one week- on Wednesday and Sunday. I said that I enjoyed it that week and should do it more often on Sun and Wed- so we made it our "thing"- every Sunday and Wed. You'd think it would make it boring or something, but I tell you- I actually look forward to those days and it's not like it's a strict thing- we do it on different days if we 'miss' and we don't force it when we're sick or something. It's made it fun and now I don't ever forget- I always remember Sun. and Wed.

Hello Stephanie,
I've been expiriencing something similar. I'd suggest going to your GYN. and asking them to check your hormone levels. Stress, exhaustion, and a number of everyday things can cause an imbalance. If that's not the problem, talk with your GYN. about the problem. They can help! But it's great that your husband is so understanding!

Stephanie,

Your not alone on this! I'm sure that I have something that can help you out.

You know most men can be turned on by the drop of a hat, but for women it takes a little more effort. Then when we work, cook, clean... all day, sex almost becomes one of those routines that we "have to do".

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Then if you bring a little lover's game or some fun & fantasy things into your bedroom, he'll know that you've been thinking about him all day... and that you are trying to put forth your feelings for him. We, as women, have to work to show our love sometimes. Needless to say sometimes we just have to "Jazz it Up" alittle.

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~S.
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