Ok. So Friday I stopped by my grandmothers house, where my dad also lives and my 8yo twin bro/sis live there half of the time other half at my mothers house, ok. So, I stopped by only because they were crying how they haven't got to see my newborn, 1month. Other wise, I never go over there, and I don't like them over my house. So, Anyhoo, as I was sitting on their filthy couch, ready to go, after only being there 2 minutes, my little brother was drawing in a notebook, and he slammed his hand on it and said , it was a lice, so I turned my head real quick, and got up, and my dad and grandma were hurrying trying to find the words, and they came up with, no, lice don't get on paper, you know that, that wasn't lice, it was...a... A Nat,. Yea we get nats sometimes (no, this dirty house has nats, flies, mice, I'm surprised not roaches) so I asked my brother, do you have lice, and mg grandma answered for him saying no, now I didn't think to much of her answering for him because she does that to everybody... So I was feeling to uneasy, and I hate being over there anyway, so I gathered my kids and left, and about 5 minutes.... Ok, switch to Saturday. The plan was dir my family, my mom and all siblings, and my sisters gf, to go swimming, and it ended up being just me, hubby, 2 older kids, my 19yo aid and her gf, and twin bro/SIS, my newborn stayed at my moms house with her, and surprisingly enough her apt was clean. So I felt comfortable. I have an expedition, so we all were in my car. We drove about 10min to and from the pool, and were there like 2 hours. So later sat. Night, I was talking th my mom, and she casually tells me something about my little sister having lice... Really...
So u asked her, your just telling me now. Why did you let us come around yall, then I remember friday.... So now I have ti treat myself, and kids. I didn't see any on them, but also I grease their hair. But, me... No. Grease, just regular hair. My husband said he's not worries about him cause black ppl, don't get lice....whatever. and I checked my baby, and no signs, but she has baby hair, straight, very fine hair right now. But I mean seriously, she knew she has the lice for weeks now, she said, we keep having to treat her every time she come from by her dads house...
Ok, why wouldn't you tell me this. Why not say, hey, we can't go swimming because we all have lice.
And my grandma lying to my face. Why not sat, no, its best you not come now.. I mean, If my kids or me, have the flu, we stay clear of Ollie, for risk of infecting them....
Ugggg, what's wrong with people.
Who does this...
Now, with the holiday coming up, we all get together over my one aunts house who has a pool, and lives by the lake, I'm gonna tell my mom, don't come if she has lice, but she won't listen, so I will have to tell others who will be there, and all that will do is cause tension...
I'm pretty sure I was adopted and nobody is telling me ...
So my question is, I don't know, just needed to vent.
Yea, thanks you guys. I just colored my hair, I read that if you have it, it gets rid of it. I didn't treat my 2 oldest kids because I didn't see any signs, do I just washed their hair and greased it. And, I am a gossip, lol. My family knows this, but technically my whole family on my mothers side is. I am close with all my aunts, uncles, and great aunts. My dad and grandma are not allowed over to that side of my familys houses, but my mom and kids will want to show. So I'm just going to tell my mom make sure their all gone, and ill ask the kids because I know they will tell me. There will be a lot of kids there.
Omg, I really have to.stop asking questions from my phone, so many typos... Lol sorry..
I wouldn't go to the LICE holiday party. Just let them find out for themselves since no one seems to mind exposing others to harmful thing.
I love my family but love them from a distance for other reasons.
They probably should have told you they had lice. Lice are very easy to get rid of, so chances are that if they knew they had it, they've already treated and the problem is gone. (I can't imagine that anyone would not treat it if they know they have it.) Do not treat for lice if there are no lice. It is not a preventative measure. You only put those chemicals on your kids hair if you are sure they have them. Lastly, lice has nothing to do with being dirty. Anyone can get it, and the lice actually prefer clean hair. My kids picked up lice from the helmets when they went go-carting. I treated them with the shampoo, combed them out for about a week, and treated them a second time a week later as directed. Changed their bedding, and that was it, problem solved.
I just would not attend the event. No one will appreciate your phone calls - they will call it gossip and cruel. Just let them all go and you find somthing better to do.
yep pretty rude but you can't get lice from just being around someone that has it. They don't jump. You have to either lay your head somewhere some that has lice has , use their hair brush, towel used on the head,hair bows, head rest, etc. something like that. You have to have direct contact with the bug.
Sounds like Skype is the safest, most hygienic way to visit with most of your family.
They can see the baby and you can't catch lice that way.
I'd do something else/go somewhere for 4th of July.
Oh B., I know it's a vent, but the way you tell it made me laugh (I know it's not funny, please don't take offense.)
Your grandmother is in denial. She sees through everything - that's the way it is with her.
I don't think you can get lice by being there if you don't put their clothing on or use their comb. Be careful of the lice stuff around the baby. I would spray down your car, just because.
I will bet that your mom has beaten the lice by the time she comes.
I've never heard that black people don't get lice - you might want to look that one up...
Dawn
lice can't jump into your hair....Beth also has said that....i wouldn't worry too much about the lice thing but the filth i would !!
Lice don't like dirty people. They like clean hair where they can stick their eggs to the clean hair shaft. If the person is dirty they can't stick their egg to anything. I think I have also heard that black people don't get lice either. I always assumed it was because they use so many products in their hair since it's so dry.
Go to headlice.org
This is the one resource I used in my child care center. It is factual and teaches a parent how to deal with lice in a reasonable way without a lot of insect repellent on their children.
I think that you need to go to the car wash and use the heavy duty vacuum and vacuum your car seats very well. Then follow the directions on how to check your child and the house.
Lice really really don't like dirty hair. So if you add just a few drops of Tea Tree Oil into each and every bottle of shampoo you ever buy you will find that lice won't get on your hair. It stinks to them and leaves an oily residue that is just enough where they can't stick their eggs to your hair. It is lice prevention.
Yep, sounds like a PERFECT reason to limit contact with these folks even if they are family. Seriously, how do you even treat a one-month old for lice?
B.!!
Girl!! You made me laugh!! I'm sorry! i really am sorry this is happening to you!! Makes me itch my scalp too!! YIKES!!
Here's this site. It has grammatical and spelling errors...http://headlice.org/faq/index.htm
You have a question - would you tell the other family that will be meeting at the lake about the lice?! YES!!! I would!!
it's wrong and rude of your family to NOT fess up about the lice.
If the house is a pig sty - PLEASE do NOT GO over there and subject your children to that filth!! YUCK!!
They need to clean the house to rid of the lice. And yes. Black people DO GET LICE. Most times because of the grease/products used, the lice cannot "stick" to the hair.
I would NOT go to the lake if the family with lice is going to be there. And it's NOT gossiping or wrong to tell OTHERS that they have lice. They are nasty little buggers. I know I would want to know if someone had lice before I went!!!
How rude of your family!
Just as a heads up:
Of course black people can get lice. I can guaran-darn-tee it, as a matter of fact, since we've had outbreaks in my old unit and the black marines had them just like everyone else. When you have 200 people, with everyone combing out (or shaving) everyone else's head getting rid of lice... there's no pretending.
Culturally, though, it's less likely to be admitted. One of my best mates... as I'm sitting there treating her hair was swearing up and down she did NOT have headlice, and we weren't to breathe a word of it to her mama, because none of her mother's children were allowed to have lice. Ever. She'd be disowned. Later, in a sociology class, this is a pretty cool cultural thing in certain regions. The "No you did NOT just ________." aka correction by denial.
Practically, though...Those of us with curly, biracial, or ethnic hair tend to get lice LESS often than those who aren't straightening, perming, oiling, stripping, and beating our hair into submission at least once a week... but we CAN still get them. So can bald people (unless they also shave their eyebrows and other body hair).
oh my dear!
i'd vent too!
what a horribly obnoxious family. sorry, but they are.
good for you for not living the way they do.
your husband is wrong, but hopefully it's not an issue. i wouldn't treat for lice unless you see them.
stay away from the family reunion if you really feel there will be lice-ridden folks there. and stop taking your babies to dirty houses. make them visit you in a neutral setting.
but don't start family feuds by telling everyone else to avoid your grandparents. it WILL be hurtful.
khairete
S.
OMG!! LOL I swear I am adopted too! My mom's house is FILTHY. Her dogs pee all over the place, they hardly ever clean it up. WHen my 4 yr old was born, I wouldn't take him in her house. AT ALL. Their carpet reeked like urine, and half the time was WET most places you stepped. SHe ripped the carpet out finally and put down linoleum because I seriously wouldnt take him in there.
She has 3 dogs, one hates kids. Snaps at them and is just nasty. The other is this huge drooling smelly thing that jumps on you, knocks you down and tries to hump your leg. GROSS! They get fleas all the time, she hardly treats them for it. And the house aside from all that is just nasty. But yet she asks like Im a snobby B*tch because I won't take my kids there unless we can be outside. They're always sick over there w/ some kind of stomach ailment and I flat out tell her...your house in GROSS thats why everyone gets sick all the time!
SO I feel your pain girl! I can't believe people find it normal to live this way!!!
