G.M.
M.,
Oh, my heart aches for you! I remember you wrote a couple of months ago. I have since prayed for you and hoped you would write again.
Well, it looks like you've made the choice, or really, your ex has made it for you. If he chooses to leave, he chooses to leave.
Let's look at the other issues at hand. If he stays, you'll be miserable, if he goes, you will struggle financially. His attitude, his lack of concern for his daughter, and you...it is HIS problem. You can't change him. You can pray for him, for you, for your daughter, you could give him space, but it is up to HIM. So if he goes, HE has to deal with the consequences.
If he does go, you will have a lot of responsibility. I wouldn't doubt that you could make it own your own. I would think family could help, certain organizations could help, even the government. If money is your main concern; I wouldn't let it be your main concern. You can make it. It will be hard, it will be frusterating, but you will be in control. Empowering you and your daughter is priceless.
I would only give you this advice. Concentrate now on you and your daughter. That's it. Make your lives a tunnel vision of how great your future can be. Make everything you do, say, and live for about making an environment filled with stability, health, and happiness. And you know what? Let him, "be him", if you've ever heard that term. Let him live out whatever fantasy he has of still being single or without responsibility. One day, he will see the error of his ways. He may never admit it, but he will. And as for your daugther, if your main focus is about her, and about you, and about making a wonderful life; she will see and understand and BELIEVE what is true. She will see her father not living his life to his fullest. Not being a dad. Not being a support. She will get it one day, it will just take time. And devotion on your part.
So, you be you--a wonderful, loving mommy who is trying to make it, going to school, working and all that...and let him be him.
Don't worry about who claims who on taxes or what money he is giving or not giving you. I know that sounds easier said than done, but really, money is not the issue. If he wants to take money from you and your daughter, he will reap the consequences. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but he will. Take one day, one minute, one second at a time....You've already done the hardest part, deciding it's over, now just deal with that. Heal your heart and love that little girl because she needs it. If/when he ever comes back, apologizes, takes responsibilty, then you deal with that. If you decide to.
I will pray for you and your little angel!
G.