M.L.
Wow that's a lot of feedings for a 13 month old! I would be concerned that not only you but also HE is not getting enough sleep. Unless he is just using you for a passie and the milk is just a bonus. My daughter nursed until 13 mos old and she did always enjoy a 2 am feeding if she could get one but it was mostly for comfort - she usually fell right back to sleep before eating anything at all. So I just switched to rocking her instead of feeding. That's about when I stopped breastfeeding and she was already getting a sippy cup during the day so if she wanted something at night she got a sippy cup of water. I'm all for feeding kids on demand and breastfeeding but that truly is an excessive number of times to feed during the night and I can't imagine he needs that much milk at night at his age. My guess is that it is very comforting for him so I would think to wean him off it you would have to find another way to comfort him. A passie, rocking, singing etc... Whatever you choose to do it will be exhausting at first until he gets used to the change. We did not co sleep but my first had a host of sleeping issues and I spent many a night in the rocking chair in her room rocking her instead of sleeping. By about 16 mos we put her on a strict bedtime schedule and started working really hard to get her sleeping through the night - mainly because at 18 mos she was going to be a big sister and I was desperate!! We tried every method known to man but in the end she just needed to be a bit older and WE needed to make the changes. She caught on once we did. I would think that as your little guy gets to be a few months older if you give him his own space - even if its a pack and play in your room it would help him and you sleep better.