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Ya, I would have to agree with you here. 7 or 8 hours is a bit much, especially for every weekend. Once in a while....maybe. It seems to say a lot about him though. My daughter is 4 months old and my husband never wants to be away from her. I guess I just can't understand where he is coming from for wanting to be away from his own baby. This is the most important time for him to get to bond with the baby.

i think that is very unreasonable.....do you get a 7-8 hour stretch to your self every week? My boyfriend that i live with is not my kids father and he has one night a month that he goes out with his friends and he plays hockey very early in the morning two days a week....he wouldn't take off on us for that long of time to just hang with his friends on a weekly basis. Once in a while for a special trip is fine, but every week?

If you think it's too long and it bothers you than it's too long and he needs to compromise. Every week is definately a lot. He needs to see that his priorities need to change now that he has a child. Explain that to him, good luck!

You are right it is too long. If it is only once in a while then that is ok but if this is happening every weekend that is too much.

7 OR 8 HOURS MAY BE A LITTLE EXCESSIVE. BUT, IF YOU COULD DO THE SAME THING WOULD YOU?
MAYBE IF YOU AND THE FATHER ALTERNATE WEEKENDS.HE HANGSD WITH HIS FRIENDS ONE WEEKEND AND YOU GET TO HANG WITH YOUR FRIENDS THE NEXT WEEKEND.
ASK HIM IF YOU COULD ARRANGE SOMETHING LIKE THAT. HOW COULD HE SAY NO WITHOUT BEING EXTREMELY SELFISH? IF HE DOES SAY NO MAYNE YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. IS HE THE FATHER OF BOTH OF YOUR CHILDREN? IF NOT, DOES HE GET ALONG WITH YOUR OLDER SON? MAYBE ON THE WEEKEND WHEN IT'S YOUR TURN TO GO OUT HE COULD SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR OLDER SON AND YOU COULD BRING THE BABY ALONG WITH YOU FOR HALF THE DAY. AFTER A FEW HOURS OF BEING OUT WITH YOUR YOUNGEST DROP HIM OFF BACK AT HOME AND GO BACK OUT FOR A FEW MORE HOURS. I THINK IT IS IMPORTANT FOR BOYS TO SPEND TIME WITH AN ADULT MALE FIGURE WHETHER IT BE HIS FATHER OR NOT. I DON'T KNOW YOU OR YOUR FAMILY. BUT, IF HE IS THE FATHER OF YOUR YOUNGEST HAVE YOU CONSIDERED MARRIAGE?
I HOPE THAT IN ANSWERING THE QUESTIONS I ASKED YOU, YOUY MAY BE ABLE TO SHED SOME LIGHT ON THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM.
GOOD LUCK

I had this problem with my husband, in the begining of our retationship. And I put my foot down and said "look are we playing mommy or daddy, or are we serious about each other and our lives with our child. At the time I only had my son. My husband was twenty four and of course very much immuture about family life and what he wanted. But, I told him to leave and figure things out. And before you know it, he proposed and are still married, and I will tell you it has been a long hall and still have our differences, it is just the matter of you and him working them out together as a couple and a family. And letting him know that a family who prays and do things together will stay together. Everything else does not matter... If he's friends care about it enough they will understand he has a family now... My husbands friends gave him the sh word but, he dealt with it. And now they have excepted it. It has been thirteen years of a rollcoaster but has been done. He goes out twice a month for about three hours. He plays card or sometimes he goes to one of there concerts. Which sometimes takes about five hours. But, we talk to each other at least every hour. Just make sure we are okay. It is usually at night. So, tell him twice a month of going out is okay for a few hours. But this everyweekend for about eight hours would make want to know exactly what are you doing?

if it is stressing you out...then it is too much. my soon to be ex husband was and is the same way. they never want to grow up and be responisible for their children...its going to take you to do something serious for him to wake up and realize he cant do that. they look at it as being trapped but thats not what we are saying...we just want them to be there. i would have a serious talk with him and make sure he understands where your comming from.

Kelly, When I saw your request I had to respond immediately.
I have been married for almost 8 years, but we've been together for almost 12 and this has been the #1 issue in our relationship since day 1! My husband is 38 going on 18 and has always expected to be able to go out with his friends every weekend and sometimes even during the week even though we have a child, both work full time jobs etc. We still fight about how much time he spends with his friends and I'm always battling for some kind of balance concerning his time away from home. He has abused this for years and we get into big fights about it frequently. All I can say is be assertive and tell him that he needs to limit his time away with friends. It's not an easy battle to fight so good luck.

Hi Kelly,
My husband and I have three kids, ages 14, 15 and 16. I am 39 and my husband is 40. Now that they are the ages they are, it's time for us to have our own time.. My husband has nights out three nights a week, Mondays is dart league night, Wed is golf league night and Friday is poker night. I don't mind at all. I have two or three nights out also, dancing class, gym and wed night with the girls. Teach your kids to be self sufficiant as they grow up. They shouldn't rely on their parents for everything as they are growing. My kids were doing thier own laundry at 6 years old. Remind your boyfriend that his time will come when the kids are older, but now, you need his help. When the kids are older, they have thier own lives and friends and so will the two of you. Hope this helps.