I get up's and downs about my self image... sometimes I look in the mirror and go "DAMN girlfriend, you da bomb!"
..and then other days (most days lately) I see a pale, overweight, tired old lady who desperately needs a manicure, pedicure, high-lights or route job, makeup, massage, martini, and fresh air...
all I can say is UGH..
Do you sometimes get this way about yourself, one day you are HOT and the next day..... NOT? And what perks you right back up again? A hug? Glass of wine? Night out with the girls?
Retail Therapy usually helps me. I go buy some new shampoo, some new make up, a new cologne..... come home with a bag full of prizes for myself.... and usually a bottle of vodka.
Of course, we all feel like this. In fact, tonight, I was noticing I need to do my roots as my grey is showing...seems like I have to do them now about every 3 weeks....ugh...and I'm wearing a strapless sundress which I like to call my moo-moo. I don't have on a bra or panties and I have several of these that I wear after work. So basically I don't look "cute". And I weigh 280 so I fall in the "overweight" catagory AND I don't have any makeup on and haven't plucked my eyebrows in a week!!! What does hubby just say to me as I walk by: "I like you in that". REALLY??!!! Guess who's getting some tonight!!! =)
Yes all the time! Just a bit ago I was looking in the mirror thinking of all the things I wish I could change, when my hubby comes home from work and tells me how beautiful I am to him and that he missed me today.
That always makes me feel better to know that no matter what I look like, I'm ALWAYS beautiful to him!
LOL, I was just thinking yesterday about what a great hair day I was having, and no one around to appreciate it except my son ;)
Today, it's raining, and my hair is a huge red headed afro... and I'm meeting my husband for lunch. AWESOME.
Sometime's, just to make myself feel better, I take a nice long hot bath, put some makeup on and a good push up bra, have a drink, and blast music... music never fails to get me out of my funk!
Oh yeah! If I can do a shower, shave, shave my peach fuzz around my face, scrub my feet, straighten my hair, put on makeup and actually get out of the house looking like this, yes, I feel good.
Most days, my hair is a bit greasy, my legs are not shaved, my tiny (yet so screaming to me) wrinkles, are showing, my boobs are too small and my clothes are too old.
I actually appreciate those "NOT" days. They keep me from getting fat and forgetting to take care of myself. Without those "NOT" days I wouldn't probably still feel attractive, even though I have many defects I keep them in check by actually never letting them become unmanageable. Does it make sense?It's easier to lose 10lbs than 30. It's easier to keep clear skin with facials (not often, but still). It's easier to keep a good body skin tone with lotion or massage. Little things go a long way. ANd if I really feel crappy, I go buy flattering clothes or high heel shoes...it works every time!
Without fail, exercise will always make me feel immediately prettier. I have been slacking on my eating habits and exercise, and have been putting on weight. Yesterday I did a 45 min workout and it was amazing the difference when I looked in the mirror today. Now, I know I am not any lighter than I was yesterday. I think part of it is simply I feel prouder of myself and therefore happier/better self esteem/prettier. Part of it is I do look slighter thinner because I ate well and therefore am not bloated. I also find that I carry myself differently when I have exercised, maybe taller and more in control.
Also, wearing a dress and having my makeup on and hair done goes a long way, especially if I have lipstick or lipgloss on.
I have not thought I looked hot for years now. The only thing that will get me in that mindset is if I were to lose 35lbs.
What gets me right back up is a glass of wine, shower, tiny bit of make up and some sexy under things ;) You sound just like me!
Yep...I am in desparate need of a new wardrobe....!!!! My DH would disagree...I wish I was losing weight faster than where I am at but I'll take it as it comes......I keep reminding myself watch what you put in your mouth....Loved the fact that I've straightened my hair.....too lazy to put on lipstick which I know I should but haven't....
Sleep. Sleep makes all the difference. When I'm sleeping well (not too much, not too little) I FEEL better. So I look better.
This past weekend I hit my breaking point with sleep (7 nights of less than five hours, I know for some folks that's a lot of sleep - for me it's crazy making). I was in tears I was so tired. And finally I slept; I slept like a flippin' log.
The next day I was a new person. I looked it too. I got to lounge, make a fire, drink tea, goof on the internet wrapped in down blankets, make too-long-phone calls with my girlfriends, and listen to some awesome music, snuggle with the kids, and heard a lecture that was really great. I got to take space from my wonderful family, then spend time with them all, and then just rest and take care of me.
I've been back on too little sleep and I look like I have been in a fight with a raccoon. I'll be able to fall asleep soon (hope, hope, hope!), and tomorrow will be a new day.
I think it's something we as woman make ourselves feel they way we do.
And all the above help, a hug, glass of wine, night out with the girls, etc.....
i feel that way too. then i remind myself that i have no one to take notice at home and i dont go anywhere fancy that would need me to be all fancied up. so i just accept myself and i will change my appearance when needed and im ready. :)
