OK, yesterday, my husband was getting ready to put some burgers out on the grill.
I asked him "Are your hands clean?"
He just looked at me.
I'm sure, on occasion, I have asked him if he has to pee before we leave the house. LOL
Have you ever done this? (Said something to your husband as if he's your kid?)
Back at ya, T!
I tell my husband to put on his play clothes. I got sick of trying to get motor oil and grease and whatnot out of the clothes he wears to work. He has a drawer with work clothes and a drawer with play clothes just like my 4 year old has a drawer with school clothes and a drawer with play clothes.
O. day I got him a glass of water...in a sippy cup.
I've done the "Good job!" to him in a mom voice.
I felt a lot worse when I said, "Good girl!" to my daughter, using the voice I use for the dog. Sigh....
ME?????
Neeeeeeever. Didn't you get the memo Denise? I'm practically perfect in every way. (*Sigh*. Just kidding.)
Yah, I've done this. Like, every day. I'm working on it, I promise ;-)
ONCE (only once!) I was complementing my little ones on some good grades with an excited "Very Good!!!" My wife came through the front door excited that she just got a promotion and I immediately responded with the same excited, "Very Good!!!". She smiled and said, "Thank you".
Oh Well. But she did get "even". We were finishing being intimate and I had made her smile. She looked at me and winked and said, "Very Good!!!" in the same excited voice I had used on her. Like I said, "Oh Well."
Good luck to you and yours.
Well, no, but even so, he DOES have his temper tantrums!
Happy Weekend, Denise!
:)
ALL THE TIME - now that I think about it Im surprised with all that I say to him and make him do that he hasnt run away to our room yelling "I hate you" while stomping his feet
I should try to start treating him more like a husband and not another child
Oops my bad =)
No, but I do treat him like a servant. Like he will bring me a bowl of ice cream and I will say, "Thank you! Is there no drink too?" Haha, I'm such a tart. I feel only a slight tinge of guilt when he comes back with my drink.
Oh wait... I DO remind him to put on his deodorant and brush his teeth. I also have to constantly rag on him to close the contact solution case. B/c sometimes he does forget ;)
Ya...I've slipped doing this before lol
The other day, during a kid crazy dinner, my husband said something to me and I responded with "Oh very well done!" In my "mommy voice"
He looked at me and we both burst into laughter.
I sometimes do it on purpose to prove a point with the little ones. For instance...my husband will burp..so I say "daddy, what do you say?" So now our 3 y/o keeps up on OUR manners. He told me today "mommy is not good manners to talk with food in your mouth"
There was another night, around dinner time that I "Snapped" at my husband. It was O. of those stressful mom days, of never getting 1 sec alone..I was trying to handle my son when my Husband asked for me. Without thinking I turned and yelled "WHAT?!?!" I felt so shitty. then we both laughed when I said I was sorry.
I routinely ask my husband if he brushed his teeth and remind him to wash his hands after he goes potty. Mainly I do this to annoy him, but it's also a good reminder for our little O.!
He may be the most OCD man on the planet when it comes to germs, so it's mainly about annoying him! : )
Well not normally, but sometimes I feel like I have teenager. I have to tell him "Honey. You NEED A SHOWER. You STINK!" But no, I have never asked him to pee before we leave. The clean hand thing, maybe.
Lol--yes. GUILTY here. I have said, put your napkin in your lap! Or do you need to go before we leave? I was super embarrassed. But when you are saying those things day in and day out to your kiddos, sometimes its hard to stop at adults~
Yup, I do it, and my husband is glad to have a baby between us, now, so I can redirect some of that away from him. Even when I was pregnant, I'd come back from the bathroom (middle of the night) and kiss his cheek and say, "Go pee." (In my defense, I knew he needed to. I know at what point in the night it hits him. Oh, well....)
When he is being really grumpy for no reason and starts to complain about every little thing I ask him (in my mommy voice lol) "what's the matter buddy? are you tired? need a nap?" And he is like "I am not the baby". "really could have fooled me."
Cute. I've accidentally asked him if he's ready to go "nite nite" yet. He just looked at me and we both burst out laughing. He actually asked me if I needed to have some "big girl time" so I could remember adult vernacular, which I took him up on! I've also wagged my finger at him and said "NO NO" when he's being naughty, but that IS on purpose to be funny.
Well, my Husband, can be really off timing, when he is getting ready to go anywhere. Often running late or getting ready JUST at the time we have to actually leave.
Even my kids will say "Daddy's only getting ready, now. Again...." And meanwhile we are all in the van ready to leave.
So therefore, I DO.... tell him "Time to get ready....! Are you getting ready? We leave in 15 minutes..." kind of thing.
My kids, get ready faster than he does.
I get ready faster than he does.
Amazingly, he does get to work on time.
I don't know how.
I've done this with an SO before. As soon as I realize what I've done, I apologize.
Our SO's want our respect and admiration. They want us to appreciate them for being the capable partners that they are. When we treat them like O. of the kids, it undermines our relationships with them.
So, that's what I do when I accidentally slip and treat my SO like a 10 year old...apologize.
LOL yes... but he does a similar thing with me... so it's not just Mom/Wife, it's also Dad/Husband
Uh, yeah. I have asked my husband if he needed to use the potty before we went out. And I often say "Hon, put on your seatbelt." I'm sure there are more, and part of it is my control-freak tendencies, but, seriously, if I didn't HAVE to remind him of these things, he'd forget...I think...
I automatically almost always ask my husband if he has the keys before we shut the front door when leaving, because half the time he doesnt.
And, since he's a maintenance guy and goes into some really grubby apartments during the day, I do ask if he washed his hands if he starts helping me in the kitchen.
Yep Guilty as charged.....I've had my husband say stop it "you're not my Mother" :)
I probably have but my husband does this to me all the time!
I just say "ok dad!" and walk away.
He doesn't do it intentionally and he is the O. who is home during the day with the kids. But JEESH!
It makes me crazy when he will ask me a question, I give him an answer...i.e. do we go right on this street (he's not real familiar with the area yet) and I will say yes, take a right on such and such...then he will enter the address in the Garmin and double check me. If you going to do that then don't ask me!
Haha, yes, I do this all the time. He doesnt seem to mind though he just obediently follows my directions ;) Took 6 years to train em! Lol
But yes, every time we get out of the car, I always ask him "got the keys?"
When he leaves for class I ask, "Got your phone, keys, wallet, and tools?"
Lol, I ask him so much more, but he is good natured about it, and usually thanks me for it.
I don't ever remind him to pee, never have, because I figure guys can go anywhere! I do, however, turn on the light if I'm passing by, so he can see where he's going.... and I sometimes remind him to flush, etc. ARGH
Use your words
We do NOT hit people in this house
We do NOT throw things when we're angry
We do NOT lie to the people we love
It's only okay to yell if there's danger or you're far away
That was DISrespectful
Wanna try again?
Time. Out. (Of course, in my husband's case, it's for a week or three)
Umm...yeah.
Yah, all the time... cuz most men ARE like children! LOL If hubby doesn't like it he can start taking the lead in our house and act like the head of the house instead of just stating that he is. Blah!
K. B
mom to 5 including triplets
Guilty!
On the weekends when I am home and he is getting ready for work and has his stuff I'll say "did you remember your lunch, did you get your spare battery, do you have your water bottle, is your wallet in your pocket, where's your cell" :) and most of the time he has forgotten at least O. of those items. He is very forgetful!
Okay O. time I did the "hey"(fingersnap) mom thing that I do when I need the boys attention- not quite the same result-
I have said things in "mom" tones mostly when he is out working in the yard or on a car and he start to trudge through me house covered in whatever- then he gets the same UHUH shoes off- wash in the mudroom- DO NOT walk on the carpet tone the kids get.
