Good morning C....Ladies,
I'd like to give my personal experience here about this situation.
I was married nearly 13 years ago and I was Jewish raised in Skokie. I met my husband who is Catholic, and at the time of our dating, engagement and marriage, the thought of raising kids in a certain religion wasn't an issue.
When I came into my 20's I began to have more and more friends who were Catholic. My best friend was raised Catholic and she having older siblings, I found myself attending their weddings and Baptisms. Never before that have I stepped foot in a Church of any kind. I found myself facsinated with the liturgy and became more interested in the Christian faith.
My husband and I had kids 2 years after we got married and I kept saying that same thing you are talking about....."I'd like to raise the kids with both faiths in the house." realizing soon after that this is certainly not possible. The Christian faith and the Jewish faith are too contradicting. You cannot teach both and not confuse the kids. It wasn't until after my daughter was born and I was pregnant again with my son that I realised I needed to make a decision. I always knew that I needed to choose a faith and stick to it. I researched and studied. I went to both services and ultimatly I felt more comfortable and believed closer to the Christian (Catholic) faith.
I had my kids baptized at the ages of 2 1/2 and 4 months old, both at once. I came into full communion myself at the age of 30, close to a year after my own kids were baptized. I am now a practicing Catholic along with my husband and kids. I belong to many ministries and my daughter is an Alter Server.
I have had many people, especially those on my side of the family give me so much grief about my choice. Never for one second have I abandoned my Jewish Heritage as they claim I have. My kids know that I was raised Jewish and ask me questions all the time about it, and I'm always happy to tell them all about it. My mother-in-law gave my kids for one Christmas a book and CD set about Hannukah.
The Catholic faith stems from the Jewdiac and the Old Testement is included in the Christian bible and read by all Christians and the Jewish people are held in high regard and Biblical figures are worshipped.
To make myself clear though, I do not celebrate both religions in the house, I only answer questions my kids ask about being Jewish and how I was raised. We don't go to temple unless we are invited to a specific celebration.
In my opinion, I feel in becoming a Christian, I have the best of both worlds. I am a Jewish Christian and am proud of my choice and the choice I made for my kids.
I hope my story helps, even a little bit. Good luck to you.
EDITED TO ADD: I recieved a lovely private message from Naomi S. Thank you so much for the PM, I didn't see a reason to send me a nasty message and so I decided to let you all read it and decide for yourselves what she had to say to me.......
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Do you realize that no matter what you practice you are not catholic? If one is born a Jew they remain a Jew regardless of their habits and traditions. I feel sorry that you are missing out on your genuine heritage and that your children are being taught a religion which is not theirs. Obviously you chose to practice catholicism because of your complicated situation but please bare in mind that you may be missing out a very wealthy, meaningful religion which is truly your own. I know every religion has its ups and downs and sometimes we embrace one custom over another but just know that there is so much more to Judaism than what you may have seen or learned. I do not write this to preach to you or have a holier than thou attitude rather to let you know what a tremendous gift you possess in your own religion, Judaism. May G-d bless you and your family and bring you peace in your worship of Him and His ways.
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Naomi, What I failed to mention in my original post this morning because I lacked the time.
MY MOTHER WAS NOT JEWISH! SHE WAS CATHOLIC, SO THEREFORE ACCORDING TO THE OLD JEWISH LAWS, I AM NOT JEWISH EITHER. MY FATHER WAS THE JEWISH ONE IN THE FAMILY, AND I WAS RAISED BY HIS SIDE AND ONLY WAS EXPOSED TO THE HERITAGE NOT THE RELIGIOUS ASPECT OF IT.
So lastly, I stand by what I said earlier......I AM CATHOLIC!