Jelousy

Have you ever given her reason not to trust you? Maybe cheated prior to being married and she forgave you? There are books out there that you two can read together. Counseling is also another option.

Perhaps some counseling is in order. The geen eyed monster is lose with her. Something in her past has made her this way even though you did nothing, she feels very insecure. You probably have done your best to show her that you are not looking but in her mind she feels you are. I wish you the best and that you can find a way for her to know that all is well. If you can go with her to counseling you may learn something as well.

Good luck to you both.

The other S.

just be open and honest and reassure her that you love her and only her. My fiance and I are very open about jealousy. i think a little jealousy is good, but too much is bad. And if I am getting on the jealous side, he'll call me out on it or sometimes I'll say "I'm not sure why, but I'm really jealous of XXX and this situation". His ex-wife cheated on him, I remind him I'm not her and I love him and only him, that's he's all I need forever and ever. I send him random texts that say that as well.

Talk to her and reassure her. Everyone feels loved in different ways. Some people feel loved when they receive gifts, some feel loved by being touched, some by having people do kind things for them, some by spending quality time with them, and some by having nice things said to them. Usually, people will show their love in ways that make themselves feel loved. But if the other person has a different love language, then they won't feel loved. Find out what your wife's primary love language is and show her love in that way. For example, if you feel loved when people do things for you, then you'll tend to show your wife that you love her by taking out the trash, cleaning the garage etc. But if your wife's primary love language is physical touch and closeness, then she won't realize that you cleaning the garage is showing her love. She won't feel loved unless you hold her and touch her. That was just an example but it can go a hundred ways. Keep reassuring her and communicating. Good luck!!

If she is jealous for absolutely NO reason then just keep reassuring her, complimenting her, giving her loads of attention. That you deleted FB is great but you shouldn’t have to delete your entire account because of some women that are questionable to her. Just delete those friends. Again, reassurances.

If she does have a reason to be jealous then you will have to work double time to regain her trust.

If the jealousy is so bad that it is starting to really push you away, I suggest you 2 go to marriage counseling. Is there someone you can talk to at your church?

I’m not a jealous person by nature, but I’ve seen it destroy people’s relationships because they don’t try to “fix” it.

Are you outgoing and giving her the "impression" that you are not faithful? For her to feel jealous, it means you are spending more time doing something ELSE other than spend time with her, whether facebook or whatever. So you need to give her the attention she craves and reassure her that she is your world.

She has the problem here and SHE needs to fix it.

She has no right to "make" you delete your FB account.

Remind her that you are her partner, not a child.

If you are bending over backwards to "prove" yourself, you will end up with deep resentments. COMMUNICATE with her and let her know how this is effecting your marriage. Get her some help to overcome obvious insecurities.

Best wishes!

just ignore it and talk to her and say that you dont love anyone else but u and her daughter very much

Wow. She thought you were looking at other women at a CHURCH function? I think all jealousy stems from insecurity of O. kind or another. What is she so insecure about? Have you ever given her reason? She might do well with some counseling.

I'm 100% the same way.
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I wish I wasn't but I am.

For those that tell you that it's her problem not yours and that she needs to work on it herself - that's not true. It's a lot easier said than done.
The two of you are married and she REALLY REALLY needs help ( from you ) with this.
All this means is that the two of you need to work harder on your marriage than ever before.

I do not want to say that you are doing anything wrong but men in general have this tendency to look and stare at beautiful women and forget who is around them and mybe you do it sometimes and don't know it. It's natural for everyone to look at others but you need to be respectful about it.

I'm sure your wife is pretty, but she doesn't feel that way. Plus she had a child and that changes your body and makes you feel worse.

Sit down with her, talk to her. Tell her that you would like for the two of you to work on this together. Ask her what she thinks that you can do to help her feel better. Tell her that you are always thinking of her and that you miss her. Tell her that you love her.

Don't think about leaving, that's not the answer.
That won't solve anything.
Work with your wife on your marriage, together as a team.

Try talking to your pastor for advice.

I bet she would go crazy if she found out that you was on this site looking for advice from other women. I know this because I would be pissed if my husband went looking for advice from other women and not just coming to me.

I wish you both great happiness.