Hello again, M.. I spoke to you before - my 14 year old is a M. too. Both my 10 year old and I are Sagittarius' and I can tell you that we are stubborn, independent and strong in personality. We tend to like travel (read: adventures) but we also like for things to be “just so.” We have a sense of order (which, if mine is anything like me, she’ll NOT display that in her teen years with any semblance of order – my room was a pigsty). But, when I grew up, I quickly learned that if I didn’t do it, it wouldn’t get done.
My Sag is very sweet and is well loved by all who meet her but among her peers, she fights the urge to be the boss of everyone. She’s sporty, slightly girly, and loves two things more than life – collecting “things” and exploring. She is inquisitive about everything and see-saws between being heartbroken that she might have hurt someone’s feelings and being carelessly rude or overly blunt with someone.
The best thing you can do for your Sag is to let her have as much independence as you are comfortable with and when drawing the line somewhere, pick your battles carefully. She’ll appreciate clear boundaries. With mine, I find it helpful to draw the line at matters involving her safety and her morals.
Sag’s hate above all else being told what to do. They sometimes need to be “tricked” into believing what you want them to do was their idea in the first place. Good luck.