Okay, you say he prays with you so I'm going to assume up are somewhat religious.
What does the bible say about being unequally yoked? He's poor. You're well off, you know you are. Most people make half what you make, probably about 1/3 of what you make.
You are an independent, smart, hard working woman who has a choice to make.
Either you accept him for who he is, fully supporting him in ALL ways. That would probably mean giving him a hefty allowance each month to supplement his income, if he even chooses to work.
I have a friend who went to college in her 30's. worked super hard and got her masters in psychology. Works for a local tribe and is over their entire social services program. She makes 6 figures too. She knew going into her marriage that she would be the bread winner, the full support of her family.
Hubby is a mechanic so work is sporadic and he collects old cars. So money goes out, some comes in, enough to be his pocket money.
She had always expected to support herself and never be a SAHM, she expected to buy her own home and vehicles, buy her own clothes, kids stuff, etc....she choose to marry this man and is extremely happy. They take expensive trips as a family every other year and on the other years they take trips stateside. Like a road trip to the Grand Canyon or drive to the Smithsonian and stay in the area a week.
One of my friends that is a math wizard and super super super smart got her doctorate in math. She was married to a man who dressed in pants too big, he was fat and always looked like he needed a shower, he worked at a Subway. So he was invariably wearing a green shirt and black or khaki pants that were falling off and way too long.
She got a job as a professor of mathematics at a prestigious university in another state. She moved away, he didn't. She had tried to get him to dress a little better, at least in clothes that fit. He didn't like her styles. So she realized he would always be an embarrassment to her and would never fit in with her at Christmas parties or banquets. She chose to leave him behind and move on. He adored her and almost worshiped the ground she walked on. He loved her but he was who he was, take or leave him.
OR
You decide you want a man who is also a hard worker that makes his own way. He won't be dependent on you in any way, except for companionship.
He might have his own styles and not be willing to compromise about anything.
He might also expect everyone to just about worship him too. Ego's can be a big bad thing.
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That said. If you do believe in God and prayer I'd like to suggest you do something.
Prepare yourself for a prayer vigil. Fast if you believe in that. Read your scriptures, research being unequally yoked, true love in the face of differences, what is it you expect in a relationship, and how you expect to think about your retirement years.
Then take an evening off, no kiddo's, no pets, no TV shows, just go in your quiet area and talk to God. He "is" listening. He will answer you, you have to be listening to him. Sometimes it's like a 2X4 up side the head and other times it's "Either way you go it will be okay". Sometimes we just get to make choices and none are bad.
I pray you'll find a peaceful answer quickly. I know it's hard when the heart is involved but your decision, your attitude about what your money is for, if you can accept the role of breadwinner, or if you can't, those are things God will help you find deep in your heart.