Is My Anxiety Blowing This Out of Proportion??????

It's up to you. I didn't get it done as I know I don't have it and know my husband doesn't have it. It is a decision we made together and that way I wasn't anxious. I have been tested in the past and was negative and my husband has only been with me.

Your anxiety is certainly blowing this out of proportion. But pregnancy will make you blow lots of things out of proportion anyway.

I think you need to look at the facts of your life and find comfort in them. As long as you haven't had unprotected sex with anyone other than your husband you should be fine. Your daughter doesn't have HIV so there is a really good chance that you don't have it either.

Stop thinking about the disease itself. Yes it is scary, but you have to focus on you and how you have lived your life. You don't have to have the HIV test done either. If you feel confident that you don't have it, then why get it? Just try to focus on the positive things in life and find something like nursery themes, or bedding patterns to obsess over. :0)

Hi S.!
Oh, how I know what you're going through..... I beleive that all of these test are now mandatory, so deciding whether you would LIKE them done or not, you would probably need to discuss with your doctor. My advice to you would be to take a deep breath and try your very best not to worry about things you have no control over. It's better to know early on about any "bad news" (not only the HIV results, but also low iron and such), then to know later and have it effect your pregnancy. I would be sure to let the nurse drawing your blood know that you would like a call from your dr's nurse with all results...good or bad. If it isn't anything that you shouldn't worry about, they usually wait until your following appointment to give you the news. In your case, it would be best for you to know asap.....just to put your mind at ease! As you said before, you probably DON'T have a thing to worry about.....soooooo, relax, enjoy time with your husband and daughter, and try to enjoy the pregancy as much as possible! We all know how quickly it goes by, right?! Good luck to you and your family.

S., I guess its just an anxiety you will have to overcome, b/c as a nurse, you will get tested for that and other diseases ocassionally. I'm sure most of your anxiety is coming from the pregnancy. If you are that worried, tell your husband, and I'm sure he'd be more than willing to test as well. Just tell him that will ease your prego state-of-mind!! :)

I suppose if you and your husband have had unprotected sex with multiple partners, I could understand your anxiety.
If that is not the case, then you have nothing to worry about.
If I might be so bold to suggest, perhaps, talking with a professional to find the root of all your anxieties.
Take care.

When I had my test done for my son, now 16 months, I knew I didn’t have HIV. I had been married and only with one man for a number of years. But in the back of my mind I too still had that “What if”. I just tried not to think about it. I kept myself busy with work and preparing for the baby. If I thought about it for even a min. I would freak out. Just try to keep yourself busy.

I had this test with my first 2 pregnancies and refused it with my third Maybe your husband should get tested to ease your mind

I have anxiety issues too, and constantly worry about everything and anything. I just try to tell myself there is no reason to worry because I cant control the outcome. (but maybe that lack of control is what causes our anxiety?) Just try not to think about it, and if you cant shake the thoughts (i know how that can be) it usually helps me to leave it with God. Because he will take care of everything for you and make sure things turn out the way theyre supposed to. I hope you feel better and maybe after the baby is born you can try to get a low dose anxiety Rx that will just help you calm your thoughts a little. Good luck

I'm almost suprised that some people opted not to have it done. (although I respect the choice you made...not starting anything here:))
While you know you have been faithful in your relationship...can you 100% without a doubt in your mind be sure that your spouse or partner was????
My husband is a wonderful man and I don't think he would ever hurt me like that...but...things you may never expect can and do happen to people every day!
While I would not get super worked up about it...it's still important for the safety of you little one. I remember having the "what if" feeling. I think most do.
Better safe then sorry for you and baby:)
Take care

Haha. I did the exact same thing. I took it and then held my breath for two weeks. My husband and I have only been together and with noone else. We do not have any other risk factors. My worry comes from the fact that my dear friend and college roomate died from AIDS related complications 6 years ago, and she had it while we were in college. You are just not so clean when you are that age and in college. We lent eachother jewelry, barely washed our eating utensils. I went to stay with her and with my other friend who is now HIV+ on occasions, even with my kids. I wasn't scared of getting sick then. Just the test carries with it that natural sense of anxiety. My anxiety comes from knowing that two beautiful people in my life that I would have never suspected were sick have had that jolt dealt to them.
I am pretty sure that I would be nervous even without that, though.

you can certainly refuse the HIV test.. and any other tests or procedures taht the dr. recommends-- You do not have to have the test. Of course your dr does not have to treat you if you refuse the test.

the chances of a married woman who has never used IV drugs having HIV are so incredibly low. HIV is a rare disease in this country- striking the known high risk groups... not married folks..

Yes your anxiety is totally over the top- it is not logical to worry that much about the HIV test. or the results of the test. You must know it is not logicial or you would not be asking momma source. But all anxieties are illogical.

if you are really worked up about the HIV test- and any othe things... you many need medications to help witht he anxiety..

I know what you mean. I was nervous both times also, and for no reason either. You're fine!!