T.M.
My 4 1/2 yr old son does the same thing!!!!! He gets sooo busy playing that he will go in his pants a little or he doesn't want to go to the bathroom because the hall is dark or the bathroom door is shut so he gets scared. Usually he only goes a little bit in his pants but there have been times where he has gone all the way. I foind that if I think he has been doing something for a long time I go and tell him to try to use the potty and every single time he does have to go. You just need to remind her every so often to go and let her know that it is not healthy to hold it or go in her pants.