Before I give my opinion on integration, I'd like to say, our district participates in a national program called Best Buddies (google it) from k-12. It 'trains' children who volunteer to 'help' with the spec needs kids who are integrated into the district. It's fantastic. My daughter, now 14, in 8th grade, has been volunteering for years. Each year she is 'assigned' a fellow student, in her grade, to befriend them, the special needs student can shadow her throughout her day. She can get involved in the other kid's life outside school as well. The kids who volunteer have a wide variety of commitment levels to choose from. It's just the most awesome program.
Anyway, with regards to integration, I DO believe it can work and REALLY benefit regular kids and spec needs kids as well. It depends entirely on how it's administrated.
I work for many years in a private spec needs pre-school. We had 10 classrooms, 7 of which were integrated. 3 were 8-1-3, 8 kids, 1 spec ed teacher, 3 aides.
I had the chance to work in every classroom. In my opinion, the classrooms with 50/50 spec needs-non spec needs did not WORK. NOBODY seemed to get what they need.
However the classrooms with a small percentage of spec needs kids worked extremely well. Say 2 or 3 spec needs with 12 or 15 non spec needs. But this also depends on WHAT spec needs, who well the teacher and aides handle it, and the attitudes of parents. But mostly, the spec needs kids DID get what they need, and the NON spec needs kids learned tolerance understanding, while getting what THEY need as well.
So I really LIKE how YOUR district plans to SLOWLY integrate your daughter into general classrooms. I think that's a GREAT idea. Though I understand why many district would be restricted by cash, room, spec ed teachers/aides and couldn't implement that kind of program. Money is VERY tight everywhere. I'd LOVE to know how it turns out for your daughter, and as a parent what your impressions are at the end of next year.
As far as your sister is concerned, well I've met a lot of parents like her. I might've even BEEN one of those parents prior to having spec ed experience myself since none of my kids have spec needs.
I'm pleased with your districts (and yours) choices for your daughter. I hope you'll keep us updated!
:)